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[KingstonsMom]

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@LilacTree wrote:

I'll always remember what Lauren Bacall said to someone who remarked to her "I hope I look as beautiful as you are when I'm your age."  Lauren quipped back . . . "In order to do that, my dear, you would have to be as beautiful as I was when I was your age."

I've had it said to me fairly often, but it doesn't bother me.  I don't think people realize it's not really a compliment, so I could never say to them what Lauren Bacall said (although I have thought of it, LOL).

If you want to tell someone she is beautiful, just say that and don't bring age into it.  (As I said, it doesn't bother me.)

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@LilacTree

I was beginning to feel like the oddball here, LOL!

Most of my life I've looked younger than my years and have been told that on many, many occasions.

I just didn't realize that I had been insulted I guess and I actually always took/take it as a compliment!

Who knew??? (Not me, obviously, LOL!)

[KingstonsMom]

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@faeriemoon wrote:

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@chickenbutt wrote:

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@QueenDanceALot wrote:

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@chickenbutt wrote:

Can somebody give me a hint on the bleeped word from Smoky's post?  I can't figure it out.  TIA

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A man's private part starting with pen.  But instead of ending in is, it ends in ile.

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Ohhhh!  Thanks so much.  The word 'plant' after that further confused me.  Had it said 'implant' I think I would have gotten it.   LMAO

I kept think what kind of plant?   Thistle?   Nah, that can't be it.   hehe

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Nope; not thistle; they're pretty erect.

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@faeriemoon

Hahahahahahahaha!

[QueenDanceALot]

Maybe people react differently to someone saying "you look great for your age" depending on what relationship you have with the person saying it.

If it's someone you know or have a relationship with, it's one thing.  If it's someone you just met, another.

I have been told various versions of the same thing - "you sure don't look your age", "no one would believe how old you are", etc.  I never take offense to it as I always feel complimented, but I think I might be taken aback if a woman much younger than I that I just met said it.  

Maybe it depends on how it's said.  On this board, we only see the words.  We don't see the facial expression or attitude.  

I do think it's quite possible that this woman was irritated with her husband for saying how old she is.  I wonder why that was even brought up?  

[LilacTree]

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@KingstonsMom wrote:

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@LilacTree wrote:

I'll always remember what Lauren Bacall said to someone who remarked to her "I hope I look as beautiful as you are when I'm your age."  Lauren quipped back . . . "In order to do that, my dear, you would have to be as beautiful as I was when I was your age."

I've had it said to me fairly often, but it doesn't bother me.  I don't think people realize it's not really a compliment, so I could never say to them what Lauren Bacall said (although I have thought of it, LOL).

If you want to tell someone she is beautiful, just say that and don't bring age into it.  (As I said, it doesn't bother me.)

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@LilacTree

I was beginning to feel like the oddball here, LOL!

Most of my life I've looked younger than my years and have been told that on many, many occasions.

I just didn't realize that I had been insulted I guess and I actually always took/take it as a compliment!

Who knew??? (Not me, obviously, LOL!)

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@KingstonsMom

As I think I said, it never bothered me, I was never insulted.  I always realized the person saying it thought it was a compliment.

[KingstonsMom]

@LilacTree

I got that you weren't bothered either, but the vast majority of posters responding would be insulted, that's what I meant!

[pommom]

Heck, I'm proud of my age.  I certainly don't go around announcing it to everyone, but if someone asks, I tell them.

My philosophy:  Age is just a number and a state of mind.

[Greeneyedlady21]

I think in general it's best to refrain from commenting on weight, age, appearance issues. No matter what anyone thinks someone's sensitivity level should be, well that is what it is. And tact should still exist, I too lament the apparent death of it.

I am dealing right now with a friend of  my mother's who has zero tact and the things she has said and done have really reached critical mass for me. She was also once my mother's boss and had zero tact then either. My mother quit on her more than once because of it. The old me last year never told her off, the new me wants to and has to. And my mother has my back on that too.

My mother has a thyroid issue and is very thin as a result. It's unreal the way people feel free to comment on that. It's hurtful to her because she's self conscious about it. She doesn't have to be less sensitive, they need to have more tact. They wouldn't comment if she was overweight, or maybe they would. 

[KingstonsMom]

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@pommom wrote:

Heck, I'm proud of my age.  I certainly don't go around announcing it to everyone, but if someone asks, I tell them.

My philosophy:  Age is just a number and a state of mind.

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@pommom

Amen, sistah!

[occasionalrain]

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@KingstonsMom wrote:

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@pommom wrote:

Heck, I'm proud of my age.  I certainly don't go around announcing it to everyone, but if someone asks, I tell them.

My philosophy:  Age is just a number and a state of mind.

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@pommom

Amen, sistah!

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If one is so proud of their age why wouldn't they want to look it? Why would a tactless comment about them looking younger than

their age please them?

For that matter what is there to be proud about, aging happens without help from the individual? Should people who haven't  lived to sixty be ashamed? Well, I supposed being dead cancels out shame.

[KingstonsMom]

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@Greeneyedlady21 wrote:

I think in general it's best to refrain from commenting on weight, age, appearance issues. No matter what anyone thinks someone's sensitivity level should be, well that is what it is. And tact should still exist, I too lament the apparent death of it.

I am dealing right now with a friend of  my mother's who has zero tact and the things she has said and done have really reached critical mass for me. She was also once my mother's boss and had zero tact then either. My mother quit on her more than once because of it. The old me last year never told her off, the new me wants to and has to. And my mother has my back on that too.

My mother has a thyroid issue and is very thin as a result. It's unreal the way people feel free to comment on that. It's hurtful to her because she's self conscious about it. She doesn't have to be less sensitive, they need to have more tact. They wouldn't comment if she was overweight, or maybe they would. 

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@Greeneyedlady21

I understand how your Mom feels!

For reasons still unknown (after every medical test known to human science), 2 years ago I suddenly started to lose 4-5 lbs a month, going from 130 lbs. to now struggling to keep my weight at least at 105 lbs. or more.

It hurts my feelings when I get 'too skinny' or 'eating disorder' comments/looks, not to mention that it's not so easy to find size 0- 2 clothes in stores.

Underweight comments are just as hurtful as overweight comments are.

The next time someone tells me to "eat a burger", I'm gonna hurl one at them!

BTW, I love burgers and I DO eat them, every chance I get, LOL!