Re: Young People Behaving BADLY!!🫤

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@Trinity11 wrote:
Here we go again. Our annual end of year "kids are scaring me" threads.

No matter how many of us speak our truth, about all the great kids out there doing altruistic things, there is always someone ready to denigrate and discredit the youth of America. Next.🙃🙄😳

@Trinity11 Welcome!🥰 I appreciate your perspective!❤️

My third paragraph shown below was rather complimentary and did not discredit them as a collective!😊

"THANKFULLY, there ARE many young people doing AMAZING things and are well behaved, but their deeds are often overshadowed by yet another SENSELESS tragedy at the hands of a young person! How did we get here???"

THANK you SO much for caring to share!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@BlueFinch wrote:
Problems with our youth simply shows the gradual breakdown in our society. What's tolerated now, would never have been, when I was a child.

The fact is, that we all need to have boundaries, with impulse control, the young and old alike. But, this has fallen by the wayside. Now, it's almost cool, to be challenging and even threatening. There are many reasons this has been developing.

There's a real problem, when so many teachers are being harassed and even attacked now. Same thing happening to health care workers. It happened to me and I witnessed it with RN peers. Unthinkable, but true and common.

I never witnessed any disrespectful behaviors toward adults, or any authority, when I was a youngster. Not even a naughty word. We knew we would be in serious trouble. Consequences for bad behavior need to be dealt with. It's a learning situation. Now, parents often don't (defending their child), and teachers' hand's are tied.

Of course, not all young people behave badly. My hope is that those with good values can set examples for some others who are challenged and save them from themselves. But, it's not looking good.

Before I retired, I saw new RN's starting work. Unlike my time, when we had such pride in our work, these young folks often left the field in less than a year. The work was 'too demanding and HARD'. Not enough time to sit on their phones.

These young folks had no idea of the definition of WORK. Good they left. They weren't approachable, nor kind and supportive with patients. Very self involved.

When I'm in a hospital setting now, I can still ID this behavior across the room. Minimal effort exerted, until they will move on, or possibly be fired. Very few will make it a lifetime career, as my peers and I did.

And, the nursing shortage continues to grow, with foreign nurses filling in gaps. They are generally thrilled with the opportunity. Many eventually further their education becoming NP's. They're examples of a different work ethic.

@BlueFinch Welcome and WOW!😁 I SO appreciate your well stated perspective!❤️ I found myself nodding in agreement with almost every word!😊

THANK you SO much for caring to share!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@J Town Girl wrote:
I know this is a little different direction than the Op was posting about but maybe in a small way it relates.

My husband and I like to take our walks at our neighborhood marina. Yesterday we were walking along the pier and this gentleman, who I assume was the father, was riding a bike with his very small son who was in an attached bike seat for a child.

As they rode towards us the father smiled and said hello and this little guy who couldn't have been more than 3 years ago looked at me and said "hello ma'am" and gave me a big smile. I couldn't have been more surprised. I said hello and smiled back at him.

As we continued to walk on, I said to my husband that is a father who is teaching his son to be respectful and that little guy will more than likely grow up to be a fine young man. I do believe parents play a big part in how children grow up.

Of course, we all know great parents whose children take a wrong turn in spite of everything that the parents do for them. But I think if you teach your children at a very young age to be respectful and follow a moral path the odds of them turning out to be productive adults is greatly increased.

@J Town Girl Welcome!🥰 I WHOLEHEARTEDLY concur!❤️

THANK you SO much for caring to share!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@Mersha wrote:
When one starts or participates in a thread, it is wise to keep in mind there is a good chance that differing opinions might/could happen.

@Mersha Welcome!🥰 I welcome differing perspectives, and appreciate a spirited debate, as long as it stays civil, and respectful, which for the most part this one has been!😁

We will not always agree, but things would be rather boring without any opposing views!❤️

THANK you SO much for caring to share!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@Lakelife62 wrote:
@GingerHead wrote:
I say we're all to blame!!!!
Happy everyone? haha

Exactly, Every generation complaining about the generation they raised and beyond is to blame. WE raised the "young people behaving BADLY". Good grief. It's okay to paint an entire generation of young people (as has been painted here) as BAD, but when the blame points to the complainers, they don't like being "broadbrushed".
Can't have it both ways.

@Lakelife62 Welcome!🥰 I appreciate your perspective!❤️

Every reference I made regarding the younger generation, stated "some"; not referencing them as a whole.😊 It was never meant to imply all behaved in this manner. My fourth paragraph shown below illustrates that!😊

"THANKFULLY, there ARE many young people doing AMAZING things and are well behaved, but their deeds are often overshadowed by yet another SENSELESS tragedy at the hands of a young person! How did we get here???"

THANK you SO much for caring to share!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

cody2 · ‎03-19-2010

@Cakers3 wrote:
And off we go with another history lesson.

I'm not sure who has a poor memory but I am sure most here remember the struggle for civil rights, Viet Nam, Kent State, the beginning of concern for our planet, Our Bodies Ourselves, the struggle for our gay citizens etc.

And many of us struggled to make a difference with action then and now, not just pontificating on a chat site.

If a discussion can only happen between like minds, it is not a discussion at all.
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Your last line here is truth. If we could all just practice it, the World would be a better place.

cody2 · ‎03-19-2010

@GingerHead wrote:
@They CallMe MRWILKES wrote:
It's very funny when posters get upset that everyone doesn't agree with the OP.

This is how open access, completely public forums work. Everyone doesn't step in line and agree.

You need to go to a restricted, private forum for total agreement and not be upset with disagreement.
@They CallMe MRWILKES

I don't see anyone getting upset that people aren't agreeing with the OP....if only it were that simple.

This is just a way to dismiss and make light of the real issue. There's a civil and enjoyable way to disagree.

What I see as upsetting to some people (me included) is the delivery of the posts that aren't in agreement. and reading something negative into a post that wasn't said or meant....

@GingerHead You go girl. I wish you were my next door neighbor. We could have some great conversations, debates, disagree, and still be good friends.

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@minkbunny wrote:
I live in a small, rural Ozarks community and actually never see young people behaving badly. Most are kind and respectful and very friendly to talk to. I realize that this is not the case everywhere but I am grateful to be surrounded with gentle souls here.

Not talking about toddlers being upset in the toy aisle at Wal Mart, of course

@SandySparkles Happy New Year to you and to all our fellow posters.

@minkbunny Welcome!🥰 You are MOST fortunate!😁

THANK you SO much for caring to share!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

GingerHead · ‎03-10-2010

@cody2 wrote:
@GingerHead wrote:
@They CallMe MRWILKES wrote:
It's very funny when posters get upset that everyone doesn't agree with the OP.

This is how open access, completely public forums work. Everyone doesn't step in line and agree.

You need to go to a restricted, private forum for total agreement and not be upset with disagreement.
@They CallMe MRWILKES

I don't see anyone getting upset that people aren't agreeing with the OP....if only it were that simple.

This is just a way to dismiss and make light of the real issue. There's a civil and enjoyable way to disagree.

What I see as upsetting to some people (me included) is the delivery of the posts that aren't in agreement. and reading something negative into a post that wasn't said or meant....
@GingerHeadYou go girl. I wish you were my next door neighbor. We could have some great conversations, debates, disagree, and still be good friends.

@cody2

Awe that's sweet to say my friend!

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SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@spumoni99 wrote:
It is never good to stereotype any group of people. There are good and bad in all.

@spumoni99 Welcome!🥰 I concur, but there is nowhere in my post that does that.😊 I shared a few observations I have made regarding SOME of them. My first paragraph begins with the word "some", and ALL of my references regarding them stated that "some" were doing these things! I also stated that "MANY of them are doing "AMAZING things!❤️ Stereotyping them was never my intent!😁

THANK you SO much for caring to share!🤗

~~~All we need is LOVE💖