You're Invited to a Birthday Party... - Page 4

godi · ‎03-09-2010

This is what I would do in your situation, I would buy a gift card and Birthday card leave it in my car and if everyone shows up with gift go out and get it, if no one does spend the gift card on you and give the birthday card to someone else. 😂😂😂😂

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

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If the invitation said NO CHILDREN would you bring some children because you know they like kids?

Because a child is so much like a bottle of wine or a scarf. I'd choose a different analogy.
The analogy is perfectly fine. There are lots of ways to fill in the blank: "My friend asked me not to bring ______________ to his party, but I'm going to anyway."

I'm pretty sure anyone who knows children or logic would not think an active child would have the same effect, or is equivalent to, a scarf.

cherry · ‎03-09-2010

I have done this a few times and it was always a hit. If you have any old fotos or snaps with the man in them get them enlarged and bring them to him. It sort of a no gift, gift

I did that for my aunts 50 wedding anniversary and she loved it. There were pictures she didn't even know existed, and her husband was gone ,so they were even more special to her, Her children gave her a 50th even though her husband wasn't alive, and it was really special

Sunny , you write so well, you could share an anecdote about him , and read it, presenting him with a framed copy.

I find these things are so special, that people are really happy to get them

WenGirl42 · ‎07-05-2012

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@Noel7 wrote:
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If the invitation said NO CHILDREN would you bring some children because you know they like kids?

Because a child is so much like a bottle of wine or a scarf. I'd choose a different analogy.
The analogy is perfectly fine. There are lots of ways to fill in the blank: "My friend asked me not to bring ______________ to his party, but I'm going to anyway."

I'm pretty sure anyone who knows children or logic would not think an active child would have the same effect, or is equivalent to, a scarf.

You can disagree with the logic, but that doesn't make it invalid (nor nonexistent). It is perfectly logical to ask someone who has stated they would bring something to a party whey they were specifically asked not to whether they would be willing to do that with anything else they might be asked not to bring. You wouldn't, because you see bringing children when asked not to as different from bringing gifts when asked not to. You haven't really explained why except to attempt to be insulting, but that's certainly your prerogative.

Besides gifts and children, what else do people typically request not be brought to their parties that CrazyDaisy could have used in her analogy?

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

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I have done this a few times and it was always a hit. If you have any old fotos or snaps with the man in them get them enlarged and bring them to him. It sort of a no gift, gift

I did that for my aunts 50 wedding anniversary and she loved it. There were pictures she didn't even know existed, and her husband was gone ,so they were even more special to her, Her children gave her a 50th even though her husband wasn't alive, and it was really special

Sunny , you write so well, you could share an anecdote about him , and read it, presenting him with a framed copy.

I find these things are so special, that people are really happy to get them

@cherry

I love your ideas! I have a lifelong friend since we were four years old. On her 50th birthday I had an old photo of the two of us cleaned up, enlarged and put in a nice frame. It was taken when we were both around five years old, standing together wearing our cowgirl outfits and holsters, messy hair, cowgirl hats askew. It was the hit of the party

magicmoodz · ‎03-16-2010

I often think hosts state "no gifts" so guests don't feel obligated to bring a present. And sometimes having to purchase a gift might be the reason some decline the invitation.

I always bring a gift. The value of that gift might be different when the invite states no gifts, but I bring a gift.

ETA: I have never been refused admittance or sent home for bringing a gift.😊

NicksmomESQ · ‎08-19-2014

I would respect their request!!

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

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I often think hosts state "no gifts" so guests don't feel obligated to bring a present. And sometimes having to purchase a gift might be the reason some decline the invitation.

I always bring a gift. The value of that gift might be different when the invite states no gifts, but I bring a gift.

ETA: I have never been refused admittance or sent home for bringing a gift.😊

I would bet that the vast majority of people who say 'no gifts' really do want people not to bring gifts.

The reason that it would appear, to somebody who disrespected their wishes and brought a gift anyway, that the recipient was glad you brought a gift is that, beyond being taught respect through manners, they were also taught to be gracious. They aren't going to stoop to a selfish level and convey what they are really thinking.

The main reason I didn't hold a 'no gift' party that I wanted to hold was that I would have a hard time fighting my anger at people who disrespected me and, since I was also taught to be gracious, it would be extremely difficult for me to appear gracious. I'd rather just not deal with it all than to feel so disrespected.

I think that Noel and Cherry's ideas were lovely and could be presented in a manner that would be acceptable. I loved the idea about the pics of when you and your friend were kids and having that made into a framed piece. That is very thoughtful.

Drythe · ‎07-09-2011

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If the invitation said NO CHILDREN would you bring some children because you know they like kids?

Because a child is so much like a bottle of wine or a scarf. I'd choose a different analogy.

@Noel7

No, because no means no. But, as a child free person, your answer gave me giggles!

"Animals are not my whole world, but they have made my world whole" ~ Roger Caras

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

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If the invitation said NO CHILDREN would you bring some children because you know they like kids?

Because a child is so much like a bottle of wine or a scarf. I'd choose a different analogy.
@Noel7

No, because no means no. But, as a child free person, your answer gave me giggles!

As a person who had a child, @Drythe I would never have brought her to an adult party, or any party unless she was on the invitation.

An analogy is to show the similarity of two things. Call me far out, but I do not see a child as similar to a scarf. Or even a bottle of wine, or anything but a child, maybe a big active puppy, I would consider the bounding puppy as analogous to a child