Re: You're Invited to a Birthday Party...

jackthebear · ‎03-11-2010

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It's for a male adult of 65 years old. The invitation clearly states, in bold print, PLEASE NO PRESENTS! All I need is your PRESENCE!

Do you bring a gift? Yes or No?

PS Please no suggestions of candles or chocolates or a bottle of wine.

Thanks, I need your feedback.

it means NO gifts of any kind

don't be THE PERSON who brings the gift, even if it is a gift card.

Drythe · ‎07-09-2011

My feeling is that at 65 he likely has almost everything he wants. The things he does not have are probably those he’d rather choose himself.

I would honor his wishes.

"Animals are not my whole world, but they have made my world whole" ~ Roger Caras

qualitygal · ‎10-04-2010

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Honestly, I really hate when someone throws a party and requests no gifts. It puts so much stress on the people you invite.

I would just invite people for a party; and when they come and see it's a birthday party, there wouldn't be an issue about gifts.

Some people feel you should respect the person and not bring a gift and some people still would bring something. It's just awkward...

See I see it just the opposite and with no stress. They said no gifts I believe them. But a good laugh between friends and a funny birthday card, that is a winner!! Now if I went to a party and saw it was for someone's birthday, I'd be mortified to not have taken a gift.

shoptilyadropagain · ‎03-19-2014

No....it CLEARLY states no presents.

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MickD · ‎03-10-2010

Seriously? The invite says no presents. Give him a card. If you bring a gift, then you make all the other guests who abided by his wishes look like schmucks. I've been to such celebrations.....common sense.

Where have you gone, Joe DiMaggio? A nation turns its lonely eyes to you.... ~ S & G

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

NO!! No no no!

It's disrespecting their request and making it about yourself (the generic you, not pointing this at you).

I'll never understand why some people will not respect this choice from their host/s. It's wrong.

There was a party I was going to hold years ago and I absolutely wanted NO gifts. I kind of did a survey around to see what people would do and some would disrespect that and bring something anyway. Needless to say, I did NOT have that party at all.

One not only disrespects the host and person the party is held for, but it makes others feel bad. It shouldn't, but it does.

Can you tell - this is a huge thorn in my side. I'll never understand why people just have to make it all about them. No gifts means NO GIFTS.

CLEM · ‎03-09-2010

@sunala this is one of those things where you can say "you are damned if you do and you are damned if you don't".

If I had sent this invitation, I would have been serious about the no presents. However, I was invited to someone birthday party where the person was adamant about not wanting presents of any kind. Well, stupid me did not bring anything and I was the only one. When I said but you didn't want any gifts, the answer was something like "well this is just something one says".

I understand your dilemma.

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

I have invited 25 people to restaurant next week for my DH’s 65th birthday and have requested no gifts.

We do not want gifts...don’t need anything. There is always someone who just has to bring something even though they were asked not to.

Laura14 · ‎06-09-2014

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I have invited 25 people to restaurant next week for my DH’s 65th birthday and have requested no gifts.

We do not want gifts...don’t need anything. There is always someone who just has to bring something even though they were asked not to.

In this case @Carmie, I'd add anyone who brings a gift will help pay the bill.

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

I would not bring a gift, but I would probably make a donation (trees in Israel, St. Jude for children) in the birthday boy's name and leave it on a table when I left.

How's that?