I'm curious as to what other people think of this. A bit of background--my mom has borderline personality disorder, my dad has depressive & narcissistic personality. They are elderly and live with my sister. I'm 50 and have not lived at home since age 22, been married to DH for 24 years. Very abusive childhood, physically, mentally & emotionally. My parents have signed over the house and all bank accounts solely to my sister. Dad has dementia and mom now needs open heart surgery but prior to that must have carotid arteries done as they are at least 95% blocked. Past two weeks her short term memory as virtually disappeared. Her big thing is to control everyone around her with her drama and causing fights between other members of the family.
I've been out of work for a bit over a year but am self empoyed with a pet sitting business so though I don't make as much as I did with my other job I do okay. Because I am self employed my mother figures I am available to cart her around to appointments--what bothers me is the lack of notice which was a problem even prior to her recent memory issues. I never asked her for anything but she insisted upon giving me gas money--when I refused to take it, she would scream, swear and carry on that it was just easier to take the money than let her get so stressed out about it. Now she tells my sister that I am charging her to take her anywhere. Then yesterday she informs me that she & my sister have made me an appointment with my mom's eye doctor and my sister is going to pay for it. They did this without consulting me. Granted I am probably a bit overdue for a check up but I see fine--just need to take my glasses off to read. When I told them to cancel the appointment --for one thing I do have my own doctor--my mother got all upset about it. Today I go over there to walk my sister's dog and my mother picks a fight with me. She starts in with how I am such a stubborn S*B and how my sister is going to be P****D with since she thought this would be such a great birthday gift. I tried explaining to her how I felt this was crossing the line--my sister hasn't been to see a GYN in years and she wouldn't appreciate it if I made an appointment for her as a gift. But there was no reasoning with her--she just kept escalating and yelling. Finally she said that my sister may get so mad she won't want me walking her dog. I said that's fine she can call another company if she wishes. My mother then yells about how that shows I don't even care about my sister's dog.... I just walked out at that point. Did call & leave my sister a message at work but haven't heard back from her.
I just don't know what to do at this point. DH says I would be better off divorcing myself from the whole lot as the stress they cause me has raised my BP and is also causing stomach trouble--I now need to take meds for both which I didn't before. What do you think--do you think that whole appointment thing is crossing the line?
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