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[Lakelife62]

Observation.

The OP hasn't mentioned that the adult is a male or that the adult in question even belongs to her. Her post was gender neutral and she could have been asking for a friend.

[They CallMe MRWILKES]

IJBOL!  IJBOL!

"Asking for a friend."

Love it!  Love it!

[sunshine45]

free of charge, but would expect them to help around the house and with errands.

[GingerHead]

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@Trinity11 wrote:

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@aj1980 wrote:

If your adult child needed to move back home, would you charge them rent or let them come free of charge?

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I would never charge him or her rent. But that can backfire dependent upon your child. My MIL welcomed my brother in law back at 27 and he never moved out. He's still living in his childhood home at 74.😳 He never paid her a cent in rent and in her latter years lived off her two pensions and social security. My husband's sister moved back with my MIL after a failed marriage at 35. She never left either. She's 77. My MIL was a saint.

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   I don't have children but if I did this would be exactly my fear if one did allow their adult child to move back without responsibilities such as paying rent, etc....there's a fine line between helping and enabling/crippling a person. so that they are no longer a functioning adult.

I wouldn't want to create a monster moocher.....

Edited to say, this is coming from a dog mom and if my dog moved out and needed to come back home I'd let him come back in a hot minute, no strings attached!!!haha

So, it's your family you decide. 

[stevieb]

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@reiki604 wrote:

I think the answers to this question answers the one about why more woman are living on there own and not getting seriously involved with men who are still being taken care of by mommy with no responsibility for their maintainance. 

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Sort of an assumption it's always males who move back home. On this thread alone, it's pretty clear that some examples given were sons and brothers and some where daughters, sisters, and so on. Some of both genders seemed to have had good reasons and some did not. Criticisms of males on these forums is not uncommon, but the tone of this comment seems a bit harsh.

[lgfan]

I don't understand why it bothers some people if adult children move back home with their parents.  They are not the ones paying their bills.  It is mom and dad.  If mom and dad don't have a problem with it why should anyone else.

[geezerette]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

If an adult child moves home to care for an ill parent, should the adult charge their parent for their care? It goes both ways. 

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Depending on the circumstances of each person involved, quite possibly.

[reiki604]

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@Pearlee wrote:

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@reiki604 wrote:

I think the answers to this question answers the one about why more woman are living on there own and not getting seriously involved with men who are still being taken care of by mommy with no responsibility for their maintainance. 

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@reiki604  Nobody asked that question.

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Thank you so much for patrolling the content of this board in your position of board police. I hope QVC compensates you appropriately 

[RespectLife]

No and it wouldn't depend on any circumstances.

I love my adult children and would welcome them back with no strings attached.

My adult daughter escaped CA, but with little to show for it since the cost of living is ridiculous out there.

She got a great job here....she is saving to buy her own home.

With the mtg rates and cost of homes due to this inflated economy....that may not happen for a few years.

We charge her nothing....and if relocation wasn't the reason, we still wouldn't charge her.

[DSD2]

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@They CallMe MRWILKES wrote:

I would think that an adult child would already have learned (or been taught) "the value of a dollar."

If you take a child in as an adult with the goal of dollar value education,  you already made some mistakes along the way.

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Really? How condescending and unkind.