Why do people make life harder than it already is? - Page 11

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

@MickD wrote:
I just chalk it up to the lady had a bad day. Everyone does. The teller couldn't understand her - on a good day those speaker systems are a mess.

My mentor and professor in grad school had/has a stutter. She was such a great role model in how she carried herself. She taught us how to develop our professional selves - quirks and all.

One day during lecture, she was just off-kilter and could not get the words out. She said - oh forget it, you all can read it off the screen. That's the way life is - good days and bad.

Sometimes we just have to take a deep breath and a step back and not jump to conclusions. It would be a different story if this was a pattern.

ITA @MickD

I think it’s kind of silly to castigate others for making choices that make life more difficult. Who doesn’t? We all do, probably every day.

MickD · ‎03-10-2010

@Noel7 True that! I hope you're feeling better day by day!

Where have you gone, Joe DiMaggio? A nation turns its lonely eyes to you.... ~ S & G

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

While I empathize with this woman's problem, I can't help but think of people who, first of all, realize that they almost always have options and,secondly, look for them!

It is well within this ladies ability to choose her options more wisely and, in the process, she would be helping herself to a better life, not waiting for everyone to accomodate her. If you wait for other people to solve your problems, imo, you will be in for a long wait. In the end, she would make more thoughtful choices and it would be a confidence booster for sure! Empathy for people with disabilites is fine. Sympathy, not so much.

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

@MickD wrote:
@Noel7 True that! I hope you're feeling better day by day!

Thank you, my doctor said it will take three weeks for me. I have dreams of going to a guy my daughter found and getting a new haircut. My hair grows at an incredibly fast rate. I am now almost at hippie length. DD likes to braid it. Oh, the simple pleasures.

ps I asked DD the other day what other ethnicity she would choose to be. She said Greek. 💜

MickD · ‎03-10-2010

@Noel7 Dream of sitting at the base of the Parthenon like Athena, or sitting on a nice quiet Greek island like Rhodes or the big one - Crete. Opa!

Where have you gone, Joe DiMaggio? A nation turns its lonely eyes to you.... ~ S & G

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

@MickD wrote:
@Noel7 Dream of sitting at the base of the Parthenon like Athena, or sitting on a nice quiet Greek island like Rhodes or the big one - Crete. Opa!

OK! 😁 @MickD

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

@jubilant wrote:
While I empathize with this woman's problem, I can't help but think of people who, first of all, realize that they almost always have options and,secondly, look for them!

It is well within this ladies ability to choose her options more wisely and, in the process, she would be helping herself to a better life, not waiting for everyone to accomodate her. If you wait for other people to solve your problems, imo, you will be in for a long wait. In the end, she would make more thoughtful choices and it would be a confidence booster for sure! Empathy for people with disabilites is fine. Sympathy, not so much.

@jubilant No sympathy for people with disabilities? I’m shocked you feel that way.

Lindsays Grandma · ‎03-10-2010

@violann wrote:
Live for one day with stuttering, or hearing impairments, or cerebral palsy, or a crossed eye or ACTUALLY ANY CONDITION THAT MAKES YOU DIFFERENT/LESS ADVANTAGED than anyone in the mainstream and THEN tell me how much you seek/enjoy being a victim.

Or perhaps MORE painful, AND EVEN LESS ATTENTION SEEKING, IS- be the loved one of someone with a situation that has to be dealt with every waking hour! See how much fun it is to watch you beautiful, dearly loved whatever live with the consequences of their less than perfect lives.

No, no, NO! Unless there is a concommitent situation in the affective domain of an individual, people with challenges do NOT seek attention, and DO NOT seek to capitalize on personal circumstances.

Sadly there are people in this world who have no understanding or compassion for others who are not as perfect as they are. Thank you for your kind words, hopefully some who read this will think before they condemn, but I doubt it.

The moving finger writes; And having writ, Moves on: nor all your Piety nor Wit Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line Nor all your Tears Wash out a Word of it. Omar Khayam

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

@Noel7 wrote:
@jubilant wrote:
While I empathize with this woman's problem, I can't help but think of people who, first of all, realize that they almost always have options and,secondly, look for them!

It is well within this ladies ability to choose her options more wisely and, in the process, she would be helping herself to a better life, not waiting for everyone to accomodate her. If you wait for other people to solve your problems, imo, you will be in for a long wait. In the end, she would make more thoughtful choices and it would be a confidence booster for sure! Empathy for people with disabilites is fine. Sympathy, not so much.

@jubilant No sympathy for people with disabilities? I’m shocked you feel that way.

*********** The definition of empathy is..... the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. In certain situations I feel empathy is better than sympathy. If this woman would have taken it upon herself to choose a different avenue, imo, it would have saved her a lot of emotional pain. If I could talk to her, I would certainly feel her frustation and pain and suggest a new way to look at things. To me that is empathizing. To insinuate that I have no sympathy for people with disabilities is not fair. I am hoping that people here who know me will know that is not true.