Why do parents do this?

Mominohio · ‎08-08-2010

I belong to a few local Facebook garage sale sites.

It can be pretty wild what people sell or are in search of.

But lately, mothers have posted 'in search of' requests, with pictures of their minor children in the listing.

One was showing her two babies while searching for a sitter for them while she works.

And one tonight was in search of a service dog for her son, who battles anxiety and depression, and the boy looked to be about 10 years old.

Don't these moms think before they do?

The poor kid with anxiety and depression now may have to deal with other kids at school or in the neighborhood bullying him about it, and the two little ones, plus the information the mom was giving about her work hours, location etc, now could be targets for people who might wish to do harm.

I'll never understand why people put their minor children out there on social media. Do parents ever consider the dangers this may present, or at the very least, that some day when their kids are grown, they are going to be mortified about the things that were shared and shown about them, when they had no control over it or could give no consent to having it done?

blackhole99 · ‎08-22-2013

I remember when my friend got her first PC and joined Facebook and plastered all her family photos and info on there. This gal was obsessed with Facebook and the internet in general. That was quite a few years ago, but I thought it was just TMI to put out there, even back then.

Kachina624 · ‎03-10-2010

A few years ago, my teen grandson broke up with his girlfriend. His mother posted all the gory details on Facebook. I was mortified and just hope he didn't know it was there.

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Its Me LuLuBelle2 · ‎10-12-2016

@mominoho, my daughter is the queen of FB. I have never been a member, but there was a time I could see her page. She's now made it private (or whatever one does to block non-users). It made me livid to see some of the pictures posted of my young grandchildren on her FB page and I told her so. We had a huge blow up over it and now not only can't I see what's going on, she's barely speaking to me. I firmly believe that minor children, who have no voice, should NOT have their pictures plastered everywhere, for all of eternity, as they have zero consent and will be on the internet until the end of time. With as much as the government wants to involve themselve's in our lives, I think this is one issue they should take action on. Social media, IMHO, will be our downfall. Vanity is not a trait to be proud of.

RoughDraft · ‎03-09-2010

Just because people can reproduce, doesn't mean they have common sense. Sad but true.

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froggy · ‎03-10-2010

Why? Because they are either brain dead or obsessed with getting their 15 minutes of fame.

When my niece got married she posted a picture of their new house and picures of their wedding gifts which included a gold bar. Unbelievable!

violann · ‎03-10-2010

Sometimes I see this jet speed rush to communicate every tiny detail of personal life as a pendulum swing from the days when there were matters that were “kept in the family”.

I also wonder if this is a correlate of the concept by some of today’s youth that “all the answers are online” (so we don’t have to read books).

I’m always hoping that at some point the pendulum of cyber communication, for any and all reasons, will swing back to a state of normalcy. Anybody see any signs of normalcy online lately.......? Still waiting........

CelticCrafter · ‎03-09-2010

They don't think.

I had a much younger than me cousin post a picture of her 13 year old daughter, on her first day of high school. She was standing in front of the house which had a plaque on it with the house number and the street name and she named the school her daughter would be attending.

I guess it would have been okay if she had her privacy settings set to friends only but she didn't, she had them set to public so any creeper or stalker could see what she was posting.

I said something to her and she did take it down but she never changed her settings.

SahmIam · ‎04-16-2010

About 15 years ago or so, my BIL in the UK posted pictures of his children and ours on FB. Romping in the sea, toddling around, just being young kids (ages 2-5) some of them were the kids naked on a private beach or on the boat as they had just bathed, were drying off, no biggie.

Due to what my DH does for a living, he was angry. Very angry. Understand that all of our children have NEVER been allowed to be photographed for a picture at school or sports that could possibly be made public. No, they are not in any year book until Senior Year (18 at that point). DH called his brother and gave him what for. Explained to him that NOTHING on the internet is ever private; even if you have setting saying it's so. If the pictures with our children were not removed within 1 hour, my DH would remove them. Photos of our children are NEVER to be placed online/in public for any reason. That rule has been in place with family members ever since.

Now, I don't know how DH would have done that; his job is one we rarely discuss because he can't. But I do know that when he says XYZ will happen, it DOES.

Those pictures were gone in 15 minutes.

Mominohio, even in this day with all the "leaks" of personal info from various online sources, people believe that they've taken all the measures, what they're doing is safe, that no one cares, etc. and so they just keep doing what they're doing.

They're SO wrong that it isn't funny. If they only knew but as they say..."Ignorance is bliss".