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Re: Which Compliment Holds More Weight

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Those who didn't like my post about compliments from strangers being rude may not be in the workplace, where they usually are rude.   Comments about anyone's personal appearance are unprofessional there. 

 

As I said, I enjoy and appreciate compliments from people I know and like.  From strangers, they can be very inappropriate. 

 

On E Post:  Emily Post was an early radio star and wrote the mother-ship of etiquette books.  The recent books are from a grand-daughter in law and lack the verve of the original lady. I have the first edition of her book from the 1920s. It makes for interesting reading.

 

Some things have changed in a hundred years, and others have not.  I am amazed at how often people I barely know ask me how much I have paid for something.  Yes, even if unintentionally so, it is rude. 

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I seriously don't get why it matters who the compliment comes from as long as you are the one who understands the difference in focus.  If you want to get into gender, I think it's rare for a man to even notice you have clothing on, much less that you happen to look nice.  Ugh.  Is anyone here REALLY taking advice from a man on how to dress?  Good grief.  I feel sorry for you if you are.  LOL

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Re: Which Compliment Holds More Weight

who says the compliment has to be about what you are wearing?  it can be about anything.  that's what i was thinking about this thread. 

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Re: Which Compliment Holds More Weight


@ladyroxanne wrote:

who says the compliment has to be about what you are wearing?  it can be about anything.  that's what i was thinking about this thread. 


Re-read post #1  ..... it seems that the OP was referring to one's appearance.

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@Burnsite wrote:

Those who didn't like my post about compliments from strangers being rude may not be in the workplace, where they usually are rude.   Comments about anyone's personal appearance are unprofessional there. 

 

As I said, I enjoy and appreciate compliments from people I know and like.  From strangers, they can be very inappropriate. 

 

On E Post:  Emily Post was an early radio star and wrote the mother-ship of etiquette books.  The recent books are from a grand-daughter in law and lack the verve of the original lady. I have the first edition of her book from the 1920s. It makes for interesting reading.

 

Some things have changed in a hundred years, and others have not.  I am amazed at how often people I barely know ask me how much I have paid for something.  Yes, even if unintentionally so, it is rude. 


If the people in your workplace are so consistently rude to you, perhaps this is not the job for you.     I don't ever recall encountering rudeness in the workplace, but, clearly, we have different co-workers.   

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yes appearance, not what we are wearing necessarily. 

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@Burnsite wrote:

Those who didn't like my post about compliments from strangers being rude may not be in the workplace, where they usually are rude.   Comments about anyone's personal appearance are unprofessional there. 

 

As I said, I enjoy and appreciate compliments from people I know and like.  From strangers, they can be very inappropriate. 

 

On E Post:  Emily Post was an early radio star and wrote the mother-ship of etiquette books.  The recent books are from a grand-daughter in law and lack the verve of the original lady. I have the first edition of her book from the 1920s. It makes for interesting reading.

 

Some things have changed in a hundred years, and others have not.  I am amazed at how often people I barely know ask me how much I have paid for something.  Yes, even if unintentionally so, it is rude. 


 

I can only speak for myself, but I've been working for decades, most of that time in a very competitive field.  And I vehemently disagree that most compliments are rude.  Having good relationships with co-workers is key in nearly every type of industry, and - as I said in a previous post - it is never wrong to be kind.  Or pleasant.

 

You keep going back to people asking the cost of things, and lumping that in with compliments.  It's not the same thing at all!