When You Dislike Someone, Do You Let Them Know?

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

Do you want them to know? I seldom let them know, well I try not to but sometimes I'm sure they suspect.

So, this subject had me wondering if there is anyone I hate. I realized that there is no one, not one person past or present that I hate.

Ms X · ‎09-13-2012

If one has a fight, obviously, one is letting someone know you don't like them. That is rare for me now, although when I was younger I was more likely to get into an unpleasant argument. It's rare for me now, but if someone pushes me too far I can get ugly. I say to myself "It's Leona Helmsley time" and let them have it. Maybe that makes me a bad person, but so be it.

There are definitely people I don't like, including some relatives.

MaggieMack · ‎10-01-2014

Not directly, no, I just avoid sharing my precious time with them. Not very many people fit into that category in my life, fortunately.

No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. - Aesop

ShowMe · ‎09-06-2010

@occasionalrain wrote:
Do you want them to know? I seldom let them know, well I try not to but sometimes I'm sure they suspect.

So, this subject had me wondering if there is anyone I hate. I realized that there is no one, not one person past or present that I hate.

There is a big difference between disliking someone and hating someone...... Even if you really dislike someone, believe they would have had to do something that would make someone hate them. I don't hate anyone.......May dislike some folks, but do not hate them. And if I do dislike someone, I try to stay out of their company. That is how I am..... Don't care for uncomfortable situations and steer clear of them......

I really do not like the word hate......

GCR18 · ‎07-03-2013

If I dislike someone, I don't let them know. If I have to interact with them like at work, I am pleasant.

Mominohio · ‎08-08-2010

Most of the time I see no need to let someone know I don't care for them. I see, as I get older, fewer reasons to make extra drama in my life. Unless they are going to really be invading my space, I just play nice (not phony, just polite and kind), and let it go (the song does have a good point!). Avoid being around them, or interacting more than is necessary.

That said, if someone is forcing an interaction/relationship, and doesn't get the hints, I do feel forced to find a way to let them know I'm just not interested in relating to them. Best to try and be as kind as possible, especially when they aren't being mean, but I just don't care for them.

pattypeep · ‎06-06-2011

Only if they ask me; otherwise I just stay away from them.

Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea-Robert A. Heinlein

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

It's easy to say nice things, be polite but sometimes a momentary expression will give you away.

Stormygirl · ‎08-01-2015

There are people that I may not like a whole bunch, but hate is a very strong word. Hate and even dislike takes too much power and energy from the self and giving ones power away to others in the negative energy form of dislike, hatred, drama and confrontation all of which are too time consuming, draining and unpleasant. Of course there are those who love drama, thrive on confrontation and dislike feeds their lack of self love. Life is way to short and the key to balance is turning that question around and instead of pointing the finger to someone else one points the finger inward and asks the question "Am I likeable"?? Can tell I read the Dali Lama and other self help books LOL.