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[Sunnyfield]

Long story but the upshot is..... DH has been divorced over 20 years. he has several children from the marriage including"Jack" who is 28. Jack has custody of his 8 year old son ( we paid for the attorney to pursue custody) and they have been living with Jack's mother for the past five or so years. the child's mother is not interested and shows up intermittently. jack has had a few brushes with the law and was in jail for a couple of months about two years ago -appears to have kept his nose cleans since then. jack has a girlfriend who is now in prison for three years for drug trafficking. we learned last year she had quite an extensive rap sheet and when we confronted them, we were called many nasty things and told we would never see DH's grandson again. I should add that DH and Jack have had a very troubled relationship -Jack stopped speaking to DH for about seven or eight years and the relationship was semi-repaired just a few years ago. so now Jack is again not speaking to DH because we "interfered" and looked up his girlfriend on the Internet...and, after receiving a couple of nasty emails from Jack and his girlfriend, we responded in kind, and let him know that if we ever find evidence that there are drugs in the house, we're prepared to fight him for custody of his son. anyway, Jack is mad, but his mother still calls asking DH for money so the jailbird girlfriend can have phone calls with Jack. I have told DH that he is being manipulated because he still feels guilty over the divorce, even tho he did nothing wrong (I was not in the picture) Jack blames DH for all his problems. it is so hard for me to keep my mouth shut! And it hurts me to see my hus and hurt by his son. Opinions? what to do?