What to do?

LTT1 · ‎03-09-2010

My post has been deleted by me.

thanks, everybody, for your suggestions!

~Have a Kind Heart, Fierce Mind, Brave Spirit~

jlkz · ‎12-02-2013

From the leader's past 3 attendance behavior ( late and even later arrivals ), that person is avoiding as much interaction with the attendees and further mention of the restaurant shortcomings / changed quality of product. Not much of a leader....

Although you were introduced by your daughter to this group, you do not owe her allegiance to an organization so unwilling to switch to another restaurant where food offerings do not cause digestive issues or questionable freshness of product.

If the positions were reversed: Would you want her to subject herself to the conditions you have endured 3 times ???

If after the first incident, there were no changes I would have declined future gatherings. Possibly, even a report to the Dept. of Health.

You have power: do not hand it over to others. I would bet that there are others in the group who feel the same way but for some reason do not want to call attention to themselves.

We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give.
Sir Winston Churchill

FranandZoe · ‎03-09-2010

Instead of just not attending why not bring it up with other members of the club? Even as a group. Or if you don't feel comfortsable doing that could you speak with the "leader" outside of your meetings?

As a last resort if you enjoy the book club you could attend but not eat. Eat before you go.

JeanLouiseFinch · ‎10-03-2011

@LTT1 - if it's not for you, it's not for you. Period. I don't know what getting your daughter's opinion matters, honestly. Just because she introduced you to the group doesn't mean you have to continue to participate if you have so many issues with the food and such.

nova · ‎03-09-2010

@LTT1 Is it possible the group would be open to meeting somewhere else? Maybe there are other local places in the area they would like to support. Perhaps each member of the book club can make a suggestion and give options on new places to try. Do other members of the group know you have food allergy concerns with the MSG? I don't think it's an unreasonable ask to try a new place.

Mom2Dogs · ‎03-09-2010

@LTT1 Dang, I love cheesecake and would have been so disappoited. Years ago I ordered an apple dumpling from a small, local restaurant, when I got to the middle it was full of mold!!

No one else in the group has had an issue with their food -not the health issues like you but flavor, etc?

Unless the leader has a good reason for not attending, I would be suspect...why wouldn't she just ask the group about finding a new location?

AngelPuppy1 · ‎03-13-2010

@LTT1

Does anyone else seem to know why the leader of the book club has been missing the last several meetings?

Are there any other members of the club that you can speak to about what you have learned about the restaurant being up for sale? And also, do others seem to have any problems with the food?

Could you possibly suggest that it would be fun to have the book club meetings (I would assume that you meet about monthly or so??) at a different restaurant each month? That why everybody could get a chance to enjoy a particular type of food which they might enjoy more, and also it might keep the meeting more fun and fresh?

"A day without sunshine is like, you know, night." - Steve Martin

kaydee50 · ‎02-07-2011

Have to admit I would never order cheesecake in a Japanese restaurant?!! Surprised it's even on the menu.

Either suggest a different restaurant to meet or quit the group.

Bri369 · ‎11-03-2018

I would bring up the topic of meeting at another restaurant. If no one is willing to change restaurants, consider not meeting with this group. Not sure why the leader is showing up late. Hasn't anyone asked her about that?

50Mickey · ‎05-21-2010

My neighborhood has a monthly ladies luncheon. It is limited to the first 20 ladies who sign up. Each month we take turns finding a restaurant that is willing to accommodate 20 and give separate checks. If you like the book club ask if others would be willing to rotate turns in finding a different restaurant. Unless you live in a very small town there must be other restaurants. I don't recommend showing up and not ordering anything. Restaurants would not take kindly to this especially if your group is spending a good deal of time there discussing the books.