What the What!? - Page 6

Pqfan · ‎03-09-2010

Rather than start a new thread I will just put this here:

May I ask for your prayers please?

Thankyou.

I am being thrown out of where I live by the woman that I told you about.

First she said end of February and when I didn't react she upped it to the end of next week.

LyndaGee · ‎03-11-2010

Hope you find a much better place to live soon, Pqfan. Praying for you.

CAcableGirl2 · ‎06-03-2010

I don't think she has the legal right to give you only a few days notice to move out. Do you have anything that was mailed to this residence addressed to you that would provide this is your "residence". That will prove that you are a resident of that address. If so, gather whatever you have....receipts for rent payment, emails, threats made in writing or recordings of threats, mail, etc... and contact a tenants rights group. Google it and I'm sure you would find a group that would be low cost or even offer free advice in your area. Don't confront these people....they don't sound stable, and make sure your valuables, bank accounts, etc.. are secure. Whatever time you can get, please use it to find a new place.

Also, sounding from the original post and now the order to move out, it sounds like they might be asking you to do something illegal - normal people don't react with threats when asking others for favors.

Please take care of yourself and learn about your tenant rights. I've found that if the word "toxic" describes any part of a relationship, friend, partner, boss, neighbor.....it's best to remove them from your life as soon as you can do it safely.

Please keep us updated - we are concerned for you and have our support.

......You look like I need a drink.....

itiswhatitis · ‎05-27-2016

@Pqfan wrote:
Rather than start a new thread I will just put this here:
May I ask for your prayers please?
Thankyou.

I am being thrown out of where I live by the woman that I told you about.
First she said end of February and when I didn't react she upped it to the end of next week.

@Pqfan, depending on your state and your lease agreement she may not have a right to do this to you. Get on the internet (since you're already here) and find out what your rights are as a tenant. From everything I've ever learned about this matter, the tenant tends to have significant rights when it comes to things like this.

Does the eviction require court? Many jurisdictions do

Are you a leased (yearly or month to month tenant)? Read your lease!!!!

If she has taken you to court and she won, you have little recourse unless the judge says so. Just google tenant rights in (put your state and/or locality in the search bar) and find out what your rights are.

*Call Tyrone*

Irshgrl31201 · ‎03-18-2010

@Pqfan since you rent a room that is a little different than renting an apt or house. I own several rental properties and while I don't rent out rooms I do know several people who have properties where they do rent rooms and they have not always had to follow the same eviction proceedings as my husband and I.

It does differ state to state but do you have a rental agreement for a certain period of time or do you just have a verbal agreement for month to month (or even week to week?) With room rental if it is a short term lease generally either party can terminate the lease with only a month notice if the rent is paid monthly but it can vary from state to state so check your state. With verbal agreements they may not have to follow eviction procedures so definitely start looking for another place but check your states procedures for room rentals and evictions.

Good luck! Your friend certainly sounds like she is very toxic to be so petty to try and control who you talk to but very petty and down right mean to kick you out over this especially with such short notice. I am so sorry that you have to go through this.

Those who make peaceful revolution impossible will make violent revolution inevitable.
JFK

SaRina · ‎04-17-2015

Just thinking of all options here....

@Pqfan, first off, I'm so sorry you are involved in such a horribly toxic situation. But.... what would happen if you bit your lip, swallowed your pride, and told your friend you would be able to purchase and send the item she wants. I don't know how expensive the item is and if she expected you to lay out the money then reimburse you. Just keep in mind, if you do buy it with your money, you may not see any reimbursement. Then pack your bags, find another place quickly, and get the heck out without a word of advance warning.

I just think sometimes you have to cut your losses in order to do what's best for yourself.

cotton4me · ‎03-09-2010

@Pqfan wrote:
Rather than start a new thread I will just put this here:
May I ask for your prayers please?
Thankyou.

I am being thrown out of where I live by the woman that I told you about.
First she said end of February and when I didn't react she upped it to the end of next week.

@Pqfan

I'm sorry you have to go through this. You're in my prayers - - praying that something better will open up for you.

reiki604 · ‎03-09-2010

@SaRina wrote:
Just thinking of all options here....

@Pqfan, first off, I'm so sorry you are involved in such a horribly toxic situation. But.... what would happen if you bit your lip, swallowed your pride, and told your friend you would be able to purchase and send the item she wants. I don't know how expensive the item is and if she expected you to lay out the money then reimburse you. Just keep in mind, if you do buy it with your money, you may not see any reimbursement. Then pack your bags, find another place quickly, and get the heck out without a word of advance warning.

I just think sometimes you have to cut your losses in order to do what's best for yourself.

This has to be the worst advise ever given. Please ignore it !!!!

i am so sorry @Pqfan that it has come to this. Other folks on this thread have given you good advise about following up with your rights. Gather all paperwork together and hide it where these people can't get it (the trunk of your car maybe) and spend every moment you can looking for another place to live, even if it's just temporary. Go to your house of worship, sometimes apartments or rooms are listed there or the folks working there know of someone who has a place. Let them know your situation so they can keep an eye out for you. Sending you prayers and good wishes!

'I refuse to engage in a battle of wits with an unarmed man'.......Unknown

SaRina · ‎04-17-2015

@reiki604 wrote:
@SaRina wrote:
Just thinking of all options here....

@Pqfan, first off, I'm so sorry you are involved in such a horribly toxic situation. But.... what would happen if you bit your lip, swallowed your pride, and told your friend you would be able to purchase and send the item she wants. I don't know how expensive the item is and if she expected you to lay out the money then reimburse you. Just keep in mind, if you do buy it with your money, you may not see any reimbursement. Then pack your bags, find another place quickly, and get the heck out without a word of advance warning.

I just think sometimes you have to cut your losses in order to do what's best for yourself.
This has to be the worst advise ever given. Please ignore it !!!!
i am so sorry @Pqfan that it has come to this. Other folks on this thread have given you good advise about following up with your rights. Gather all paperwork together and hide it where these people can't get it (the trunk of your car maybe) and spend every moment you can looking for another place to live, even if it's just temporary. Go to your house of worship, sometimes apartments or rooms are listed there or the folks working there know of someone who has a place. Let them know your situation so they can keep an eye out for you. Sending you prayers and good wishes!

@reiki604, I brought this up as an option simply because I am in the habit of considering all options in difficult situations, whether they are valid or not, whether they are doable or not. We don't know the actual relationship between the OP and her friend -- whether the friend is simply immature, or toxic, or even downright dangerous with this latest turn of events.

I have been in a potentially dangerous situation with an individual who was a bit unstable. After weighing all my options, I decided to put my ego aside and "make nice" with this person until such a time came that I could safely exit the situation.... and on good terms... so that I would never have to be concerned about this person again.

Also, practically speaking, a lot of posters seem to think Pqfan will be able to find another place to live in a week's time. It's not as easy as everyone may think. This tact will likely buy her the time to investigate her options for relocation.

It is something to consider. and sometimes you have to do what's counter-intuitive to do what's best for you in the end.