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[Love my grandkids]

On 1/4/2014 ennui1 said:

I think if she's the beneficiary, it doesn't matter if she's married or not.

How does she know the ex didn't change the beneficiary on the policy?

Agree! And she could be cooling her heels for NOTHING (I hope).

[Love my grandkids]

On 1/4/2014 ennui1 said:

I think if she's the beneficiary, it doesn't matter if she's married or not.

How does she know the ex didn't change the beneficiary on the policy?

Agree! And she could be cooling her heels for NOTHING (I hope).

[cody2]

Maybe she just doesn't want to marry this guy?

[occasionalrain]

From the OP's description the boyfriend sounds to good to be true. Why is he so interested in marriage? What's in it for him? Why shouldn't she have both the companionship of the boyfriend and the money she surely earned the hard way?

As to the life insurance, it could be part of the divorce decree but she should be sure that it's still valid and that she is still the beneficiary.

The poster who didn't get the insurance on her husband. In my state a spouse has to sign that they are aware and agree to have someone other than themselves listed as the beneficiary. If it's the law in my state it could be the law in all states and in that case you could have claimed the money. Could be your husband forged your name on the policy. If the statute of limitations hasn't run out it would be worth looking into. It may not be too late.

[bikerbabe]

On 1/4/2014 Shorty2U said:

From the OP. You are all right. it wouldn't matter unless the insurance policy or maybe they had a will made that stipulates. Her ex was controlling. I'm wondering if he told her he would take her off IF she remarried. I will be talking to her Monday so I will ask that. And I agree with the above poster about holding on to bitterness and revenge. That is not good. She needs to move on (IMO). She is in her low 50s by the way. If this post is still here Mon I will come back and let you know why she cant collect (if she remarries). But to me the main thing is, I think happiness should come before marriage unless this is her excuse not to move on?

Thank you.

If that is the case, then this is his way of continuing to control her even after divorce - and she's letting him do it. She remains emotionally stuck in her past relationship, unable to fully move on and build a new life.

[ennui1]

On 1/4/2014 occasional rain said:

From the OP's description the boyfriend sounds to good to be true. Why is he so interested in marriage? What's in it for him?

$250,000.