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[RedTop]

When I married, I was looking for the qualities I admired in my Dad; honest, hard working, good provider, and a caring person. I had also heard the advice as to watch how your prospective husband treats his mother, and saw a deep, caring relationship there as well. Forty years later, this good man is still by my side. The last 6 weeks of my MIL's life, my husband lived with her Monday through Friday, and took care of her round the clock, while his sister and younger brother worked---they provided care for their mother on the weekends. Despite the fact I firmly believe my husband and I are polar opposites, I also feel he is the only man who can even begin to understand me and make me happy.

[LilacTree]

I would be the last person in the world to give advice on that topic. I married twice, picked poorly (for different reasons, they were both high earners), and have been divorced since 1975, never to marry again. I did have one long, sweet relationship, but we never married or lived together, and it ended because of issues with my health.

In between I dated a lot of men, and when I look back, there was nary a one with whom I would have had a successful marriage. We do not have a good track record in my family of nearly 40 from the original four of us.