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[beckyb1012]

Still struggling but getting better with throwing the schedules and rules out the window.

Trying so hard to not force myself to go grocery shopping this day, laundry on that day, cleaning, ect.......   days.  Every day all week long, year after year, decade after decade.

When I realized they were my rules and my schedules it was like a light went off in my head.  Still hard to let it go if I do not want to do something or if I just do not feel well.  In the past I have had major migraines and will still force myself to clean my toilets and vacuum since it is Friday afternoon. 

"It is ok to let the little stuff go and enjoy myself it is all over way too soon."

[qualitygal]

@chickenbutt,

  Sending you a big soft hug and cheek kiss. I feel so bad that you had to endure that, but I must say, I think you came out of it, at the top of your class. I admire you.

[SaRina]

Survivor's guilt.....I'm still working on it.

[seaBreeze]

People will disappoint you .... but God never fails.

[catwhisperer]

To trust my instincts.

[sweetee2]

                  For me also is you don't really know  people. I've had people I worked with for years stab me in the back. I've had my own brother  whom if it Hadden been for me probably wouldn't be alive turn against me horribly. So you don't really know people. But I just try and not think about it and time heals all.

[Moonchilde]

That not everyone will like you, or approve of you, and that's okay - I don't need everyone's approval.

Liking myself just the way I am and being comfortable in my own skin.

That everyone's definition of frienship isn't the same.

[Moonchilde]

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@catwhisperer wrote:

To trust my instincts.

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Good one! I'd forgotten that one because for the most part I always have, but it's the times I've given people the benefit of the doubt that I was virtually smacked, so now I let that instinct rule 95% of the time. It has served me well.

[chickenbutt]

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QualityGal wrote:

@chickenbutt,

  Sending you a big soft hug and cheek kiss. I feel so bad that you had to endure that, but I must say, I think you came out of it, at the top of your class. I admire you.

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QG - Thanks!  That's very kind.  We might not always agree, but I always respect you.

I probably don't do as well as it would appear.   You learn pretty young to hide your vulnerabilities - your fear, despair, etc.     That's just the survival instinct kicking in.  I think that growing up without love or nurturing, plus the abuses, causes you to kind of learn to survive like any other animal because you don't have anything, or anyone, else to fall back.  

But I try!  

[IamMrsG]

I am a cancer survivor, and I have said many times having had it improved my life.  Cancer puts life in proper perspective in rapid fashion.  It took cancer to teach me, "Don't sweat the small stuff...It's all small stuff."   

@Yardlie  This is a good thread.