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[blueroses47]

I've been invited to an engagement party (to be held at a local restaurant in the evening) and I'm just unsure as to the proper etiquette regarding a gift.

Now that I think about it, I've never actually been invited to an engagement party, at least not since my aunt's in 1952 when I was 5 years old.

The bride-to-be is the daughter of a friend I met at my workplace. Our families did socialize a few times a year and now I get together with her mother once a year or so. We were "good" friends, but not that close, and I'm surprised, actually that I am invited to this party.

I "googled" "appropriate engagement gift" and was surprised to see that some sources say no gift is necessary, or that some small token with a card would be enough.

I have no problem with the cost of the gift, my issue is just that I want to do what is right. My original thought was a $50 check in a card would be a safe bet, as I really don't know what else to give. It's not a bridal shower where concrete gifts are expected, and were I to be invited to the wedding I would give more, but in this case I don't know what to do.

I was hoping some of you who have had more experience with this kind of thing would be able to guide me in the right direction.

Thanks.