Community Chat

[Jordan2]

When I was young and stupid I thought first he had to be handsome. My wise mother would say "oh, he can be abusive to you, but as look as he's handsome". Now I'm older and wiser. I look for someone who is kind, compassionate, has a sense of humor, is generous in spirit (also not a cheapskate), who is also good to his mother. It is nice if you are physically attracted to someone but I think someone can grow on you and become handsome because you love him. I have seen too many women disregard someone because he doesn't measure up to their idea of perfection. By the way I'm still searching for Mr. Right!

[milkbone]

Honesty used to count :-)

[Deb1010yetagain]

Kind, loves animals, compassionate, trustworthy, intelligent, honest, employed, good listener, happy, sincere, humble, considerate, hard worker, communicative and fair.  Basically just thought of my (((DH))) and his qualities.

[NycVixen]

Both my parents are really good looking. My mom grew up with an abusive father then my father was not very kind and that made her have some issues but overall she's kind and compassionate.

Unfortunately, dad never was and never will be. I guess I internalized this; I have never focused on finding a partner that was handsome but mostly wanted one that was kind, compassionate, loyal and affectionate. My first BF lived in another town so it was hard to get to know who he really was. We were matched up by a co-worker of mine. He happened to be good looking and in the end that was all he was. I know there are a lot of kind really good looking men out there. 

My second BF who is now my husband is the perfect combination of attractiveness, kindness and intelligence. He is not a Don Draper looks wise but I've never been into that; that was my dad and I didn't want to take my chances.

For me the #1 thing is to be a genuinely good person. My DH is. This has made my life easier because we have the same values, morals and way of being. I'm confident we will raise our children with the same moral compass and hug them a lot in the process LOL. We both love to cuddle, are silly at times and just love to be happy. 

[Shogirl]

Honesty, integrity, kindness - those three words describe my husband to a tee and they are what's most important to me.  I've been married four times, so I count my lucky stars every day that we found each other! 

[rhinovodka]

A good heart/spirit, open minded and nice sense of humor. I guess I really don't have a lot of qualities I look for in someone, I guess I base it more on my gut and whether we "click" or not.

[Jordan2]

I hope those of you that have found their perfect partner realize how lucky they are and never take them for granted.

[KingstonsMom]

Honesty

Fidelity

Intelligence

kindness

loyalty

[Deb1010yetagain]

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@Jordan2 wrote:

I hope those of you that have found their perfect partner realize how lucky they are and never take them for granted.

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@Jordan2  you are very wise.  Thank you for starting this thread.  I'm going to share what I wrote with ((DH)) when he gets home from work tonight.