Re: What To Gift At A Wedding

Jessie913 · ‎01-09-2016

@50Mickey wrote:
Where I'm from in the South expecting guests to "cover the cost of their meal" would be considered extremely lacking in taste and manners. One does not throw an elaborate reception bragging about the meal, the cocktails and venue and then expect guests to help pay for the cost. From reading the responses it sounds like this is a regional thing and has been going on for years in some parts of the country.

You're blowing it way out of proportion. Its not an expectation to most maybe to a select few but not in my circle. And who's bragging? If you dont want to go than dont go

Jessie913 · ‎01-09-2016

@Lakelife62 wrote:
The only expectations for attending a wedding are the ones we put on ourselves. There is no minimum gift and anybody else's expectation of a proper gift is their issue, not yours.
As far as tradition goes. What is tradition but the ideas and rituals of dead people? Give any gift you are comfortable with. The bride and groom will either appreciate it or not. Again, not your issue.
Have any kind of wedding you want. People will either attend or not. The people who go are the one's you would have picked to be there anyway
And for pity's sake, if you have an attitude about the number of invites to events, the travel time, the expense or you don't approve because it's the brides 4th marriage...
Just
Don't
Go
The absence of your negative energy will be a blessing.

BEST RESPONSE YET!!

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

Showers are gift grabs, but are to be hosted by co-workers or by bridesmaids. Never by close family members. Family give engagement parties.

Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

So, according to The Knot an average wedding in New York State is $48,600 which I think is a rather low quote especially for NYC and the surrounding area. Couples instead of having their wedding night tally up the checks they received. Don't think they're not commenting about how much aunt Joan or cousin Joe gave, and comparing your side and my side. Couples go into debt for a wedding and hope to at least break even.

50Mickey · ‎05-21-2010

@Jordan2 wrote:
So, according to The Knot an average wedding in New York State is $48,600 which I think is a rather low quote especially for NYC and the surrounding area. Couples instead of having their wedding night tally up the checks they received. Don't think they're not commenting about how much aunt Joan or cousin Joe gave, and comparing your side and my side. Couples go into debt for a wedding and hope to at least break even.

@Jordan2 Are you serious or being sarcastic? I hope it's the latter. Going into debt to put on a splashy party that they can't afford is one of the dumbest things that a couple can do. Choosing to do this and hoping to break even is basically asking their guests to pay for their wedding. But it sounds like maybe they want to do better than break even like make money at the expense of their friends and relatives. Sitting around counting the money and comparing who gave what?? Wouldn't it be easier to send a bill with the invitattions letting everyone know how much they must pay to attend this event?

CatsyCline · ‎07-24-2013

@Jordan2 wrote:
So, according to The Knot an average wedding in New York State is $48,600 which I think is a rather low quote especially for NYC and the surrounding area. Couples instead of having their wedding night tally up the checks they received. Don't think they're not commenting about how much aunt Joan or cousin Joe gave, and comparing your side and my side. Couples go into debt for a wedding and hope to at least break even.

@Jordan2 that sounds extremely mercenary! how sad. the guests are walking $$ bills. a wedding should be a joyous occasion and they are sitting there tabulating their returns on an Excel Spreadsheet.

BTW: $25 in say 1967 is worth about $225 today. so not exactly chump change in the '60s.

Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

@50Mickey I am completely serious. Some women want the wedding they dreamed of their whole lives and don't care about the cost.

CelticCrafter · ‎03-09-2010

@occasionalrain wrote:
Showers are gift grabs, but are to be hosted by co-workers or by bridesmaids. Never by close family members. Family give engagement parties.

That way of thinking went out the window at least 10 years ago. Not only are they hosted by a family member but they are no longer a surprise.

reiki604 · ‎03-09-2010

@Lakelife62 wrote:
The only expectations for attending a wedding are the ones we put on ourselves. There is no minimum gift and anybody else's expectation of a proper gift is their issue, not yours.
As far as tradition goes. What is tradition but the ideas and rituals of dead people? Give any gift you are comfortable with. The bride and groom will either appreciate it or not. Again, not your issue.
Have any kind of wedding you want. People will either attend or not. The people who go are the one's you would have picked to be there anyway
And for pity's sake, if you have an attitude about the number of invites to events, the travel time, the expense or you don't approve because it's the brides 4th marriage...
Just
Don't
Go
The absence of your negative energy will be a blessing.

Brava!!!!!!!

'I refuse to engage in a battle of wits with an unarmed man'.......Unknown