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[beckyb1012]

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@proudlyfromNJ wrote:

Give a gift from their registry or fifty dollars. Depends on what is the custom in your part of the country. 

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That is exactly what I have always done, the registry if there is one and if not $50.00 max.

[kaydee50]

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@Jordan2 wrote:

I have always given a  check as a gift to the couple. I was talking to some people as to what you give these days as a single person or couple attending a wedding. It is kind of customary to cover the cost of the meal, I suppose it depends on what part of the country you come from as to how much you give. I go to weddings in NYC, Long Island, and New Jersey. I think as a single person I would give $200-$250, as a couple $500. What are your thoughts on this?

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I think that's generous.  Basically, I would give what I could afford comfortably.  DH and I would only give that much if it were a close friend or relative.  How much the wedding is costing is not my concern.

[Chessa35]

It depends on :

#1: How well do you know the couple 

#2: How close are you to them

#3: You give what you can afford ! Who cares what you are expected to give .

#4: Paying for your own meal is ridiculous , classless and tacky .

[Boehm Collector]

@Jordan2   .. I would never give a gift of $500.00.   My DH & I live in NJ.  We would probably give $200 - $250.00 depending on our relationship with the couple.   But if any of my nieces were to get married.   I would probably give more than $250.00.  

[ManyMeows]

🙄😏 When one RSVP's, and they included a check to cover the cost of food and alcohol consumption, along with a reasonable gratuity, are they still expected to bring a gift?

[proudlyfromNJ]

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@ManyMeows wrote:

🙄😏 When one RSVP's, and they included a check to cover the cost of food and alcohol consumption, along with a reasonable gratuity, are they still expected to bring a gift?

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@ManyMeows  The check is the gift.

[mac116]

It is customary where I live to cover the cost of a meal in an equivalent restaurant...buffet is certainly different than a sit down served meal.  That is ONLY if you are close to the couple or their parents (otherwise you really wouldn't know any details).  That was the case when my sons were married 20+ years ago.  It wasn't about greed.

[Sage04]

I've never heard anything like that until I started Posting here. Pay for your meal? How does anyone know what the meal costs?

No wonder the Bride and Groom expect help paying for their honeymoon.

[Jessie913]

Well, Im from NY and yes it was always customary to cover your plate. Today might be a little different due to the ecomomy. (who knows? BUT I would NOT be giving only a $50. gift!!  People here give that and more for a shower) My daughter is getting married at a very nice venue and it is costing 175 pp (228 total with tax and tip included.)  guests are recieving an elaborate cocktail hour with 3 food stations, 4 course sit down dinner (4 entree choices) italian pastries on the table in addition to wedding cake.   Fun farewell snack to take on the go.  Theres even an after party!  And lets not forget IT'S 5 hours of top shelf OPEN BAR!  I think it is well worth the price!!  

[scatcat]

Years ago one of my friends got married in rural MO. She said "a family of 4 will bring a piece of Tupperware as a gift".