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[Marp]

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@Sooner wrote:

I see this a lot here and I always wonder what people mean by that.  

Do you mean: I won't say anything somebody does is wrong; I don't put any right or wrong on someone's actions; I don't care what others do as long as it doen't affect me; etc.

Some people criticize actions others take and then say "But I don't judge" and I think ok, but does that mean you don't think what they do is right or wrong?  Do you make no moral judgment?  If you don't judge, do you have a "right or wrong" standard?

So I have always been confused about this statement.   I am not out to start a fight here, but I am just curious what it means to different folks.

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IMO criticizing is judging which is not the same as having a different opinion or outlook.

For example, someone posts about a top they found in a fabulous color.  A poster says the color is horrid but I don't judge. To me that is criticizing and questioning the OP's judgement and taste.

That is different from saying it isn't a color I would ever wear but so happy you love it.  To me that is offering a different opinion of the color without judging the OP's taste or judgement.

[RoughDraft]

Your question puts me in mind of a post I read here earlier today.  I noticed judgemental comments at the end of each paragraph.  

Sitting on my hands now.

[Zhills]

[Mary Bailey]

Just like "just kidding" means I just insulted you & excusing myself from making you feel bad

[SunValley]

I find that if people start with “I’m not judging” it’s usually the prelude to it.

[DearPrudence]

I see a market for a double sided paddle: Judging on one side, Not Judging on the other. 

[SunValley]

I make judgements all the time, but (usually) I know by now when and where to voice them and when to keep the lip zipped.

[Nancy Drew]

Then there are the ones judging the others that judge. They think they are better and above it all, they aren’t.

[ECBG]

To me, it means "If that how you view the situation, ok.  It's your vision not mine."  Let's move forward.  No judgement.

[suzyQ3]

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@Nancy Drew wrote:

Then there are the ones judging the others that judge. They think they are better and above it all, they aren’t.

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@Nancy Drew, yeah, but the worst are those who judge others who judge those who judge others -- and down the rabbit hole we go. :-)