What Do You Think About The Pop In - Page 4

CANDLEQUEEN · ‎03-09-2010

My husband has a close close friend from childhood that lives in another state, and once in a while when he is in town he will pop over unannounced, usually in the middle of the afternoon or early evening. We don't mind, because its only once or twice a year......But for anyone else I appreciate a phone call 1st!!!!!I never do that to anyone, except my Mom!!!!!!

MadameQueen · ‎03-20-2015

I would rather have advance notice. But I feel that I don't want to miss out on the opportunity to see people I care about because of worrying that me or my house are not ready for company.

Pearlee · ‎06-11-2011

I think nowadays pretty much everyone has a cell phone. Even if a person is literally at the curb of someone's house uninvited, there is no excuse for not giving a call first to see whether it's convenient for the person to receive company.

Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

I really detest the pop in. My next door neighbor never calls and will just ring my bell. Now she never invites me into her home, the only time I was in her house was when she called to say she wasn't feeling well. I went over and then called an ambulance for her. She also has me do favors for her (she thinks it is just being neighborly) I never ask anything of her. To me the pop in is just rude! Maybe I'm not in the mood for company or was busy with something.. I feel I shouldn't have to "entertain" her for an hour or so.

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

I really don't see a problem with it and don't understand what the problem is.

Are the people that knock on your doors obnoxious? Are they dirty? Are they loud or drunk or abusive?

The people that come over to my house are my friends and family. What would stop me from a light conversation? I don't have to make a chocolate mousse for them. No reason we can't sit on a sunny porch or deck and talk. I don't care if my hair is up in a clip and I'm still in my jammies. No one I know is going to make me feel bad about that. It's the norm.

What do y'all live next to Mrs. Crabtree?

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

It's really the ultimate in bad manners ..... such a lack of consideration for the person you expect to drop what they are doing and entertain you!! How rude.

Personally, if someone attempts to "pop in", they may pop, but they aren't coming in! LOL

PinkyPetunia · ‎03-09-2010

Nobody I know pops in without calling. Years back (before the advent of cell phones) I'd get a neighbor or family member ringing my bell, but it just doesn't happen to me now, nor do I do it to anyone.

It's inconsiderate to just drop in.

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

Lucky charm wrote:
I really don't see a problem with it and don't understand what the problem is.

Are the people that knock on your doors obnoxious? Are they dirty? Are they loud or drunk or abusive?

The people that come over to my house are my friends and family. What would stop me from a light conversation? I don't have to make a chocolate mousse for them. No reason we can't sit on a sunny porch or deck and talk. I don't care if my hair is up in a clip and I'm still in my jammies. No one I know is going to make me feel bad about that. It's the norm.

What do y'all live next to Mrs. Crabtree?

Hi! I cannot speak for anybody else, of course, but for me it's probably primarily the fact that it's incredibly rude and uncivilized. I would never do that to anybody else because I have manners and, by the same token, I don't want it done to me.

When I'm at home I'm probably going to be in my 'dog hair' clothes - maybe I haven't even taken a shower yet - whatever. But if I have a commitment to somebody I am good for that. I've taken my shower and put on nicer clothes (that are not covered in dog hair), and it's all good. This is what I find socially acceptable.

Now, if there is another way that works for somebody else, go for it. As long as it's a two-way street, all is good. But I'd be willing to bet that most people who graciously accept these uninvited/unexpected guests are just doing so out of a sense of social grace, NOT because they are happy to see somebody showing up at their house out of the blue.

So when somebody might say 'well, so-and-so is always glad to see me show up at their house', that person is probably just trying to be nice but inside they are hating that somebody just showed up at their house uninvited.

Puzzle Piece · ‎06-29-2010

Very rude and imposing of those who just drop in. What if you had plans or another group of people comiong over that didn't include them? There are statements to make to let them know to contact you and come by another time. Don't be a door mat.

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Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

@Lucky Charm wrote:
I really don't see a problem with it and don't understand what the problem is.

Are the people that knock on your doors obnoxious? Are they dirty? Are they loud or drunk or abusive?

The people that come over to my house are my friends and family. What would stop me from a light conversation? I don't have to make a chocolate mousse for them. No reason we can't sit on a sunny porch or deck and talk. I don't care if my hair is up in a clip and I'm still in my jammies. No one I know is going to make me feel bad about that. It's the norm.

What do y'all live next to Mrs. Crabtree?

I think you are lucky to have such great family and friends, some of us aren't. I feel like it's a gotcha moment, trying to find me at my worst. Really how much trouble is it to pick up a phone to ask me if it is okay to come by? It is okay with me if immediate family pops in but they usually have the good manners to call first.