Re: What Do You Think About The Pop In

Deb1010yetagain · ‎12-09-2013

@Mominohio wrote:
I see this heated topic rears it's head once again.

I think it all depends on your relationship to the person doing the dropping in.

For me, if it is people that are related or close friends, I have no problem. If they are willing to look at me and my house as they find us, then welcome in and glad to see you.

I won't just drop by people who don't fit that description of family or close friends, only because of reading here over the years, about those who get totally wigged out about such things. I have to know you well enough to know that you don't resent my visit, for me to be a drop by guest.

Here is how I see it. Life is short. If I can't put down my book, turn off the TV, get past the fact someone saw me when I needed a shower and a change of clothing, maybe even let dinner get cold, in order to spend some time with people I care about, or even just another fellow human being that wanted to visit for awhile, then I'm the looser.

I think that if I'm in a state of 'hiding' or not answering the door to callers on any kind of regular basis, the problem just might be with me.

Some of us enjoy our solitude. no problem with that.

Ms X · ‎09-13-2012

The drunk-neighbor pop-in is the worst.

KingstonsMom · ‎03-09-2010

@Ms X wrote:
The drunk-neighbor pop-in is the worst.

Especially if he doesn't bring any booze with him. LOL!

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

KingstonsMom · ‎03-09-2010

I also won't answer the door to uninvited guests, but I'm not 'hiding', nor do I have a 'problem'.

Our home is our castle.... our personal, private space. Our friends & family know we don't like 'drop ins' and they have no problem with making a quick call first.

Hey, we could be having a little afternoon delight, so who wants someone at the door unexpectedly, much less just walking in!

Maybe it's my Southern roots, but I was raised that it's rude to just show up, unannounced or uninvited.

But I like it that way!

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

Chiming in again........

I don't have a problem with people coming to my door unannounced. I will usually answer the door (if it's my neighbor or someone who I know), I just don't let them in! I usually only clean good when I know someone is visiting.

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

I don't think people should feel badly one way or the other. I come from a family with an open door policy. We were a family of five growing up and we were the house in the neighborhood where all the kids congregated. I can see that probably is not for everyone.

Some people are ill or just home from the hospital, have dogs that need pinned up, have to get more rest than others, may have a child napping....and a whole host of reasons why they may not like it. I am not a happy camper when I am sick and get visitors that stay too long at the hospital.....that is my pet peeve!

The two things that make me feel better are keeping the guest bathroom clean and keeping my main living area at least "picked up".....oh, and getting up and getting dressed with a little makeup helps, too! I think that makes a person, or at least it does me, feel a bit more hospitable.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

Even as a child I really hated when someone came barging into our home with no advance notice! Who did they think they were? lol It felt SO disruptive and rude.

I also remember an occasion when my Aunt Lucy and her family drove from another state (approx 4 hour drive) and banged on the door on a Sunday morning!! She never thought to even call first and let my folks she was coming!!

All I could think was ..... what if we weren't home?

YorkieonmyPillow · ‎01-13-2013

@Jordan2 wrote:
Okay so after reading some of your posts I'm feeling like a terrible person because I don't like people stopping by unannounced! I still think one should give a little notice they are coming by, maybe I'm wrong!

You're not wrong at all. My goodness, if you can't have privacy in your own home where can you have it?

My home is my own tiny domain. I make the rules. Those of you that are okay with someone popping in, do you care how they behave, once inside? As I said, I make the rules ~ no popping in and no cigarette smoking in my home. Is that "rude," too? I'm going to have plenty to say, for instance, if someone is over and they start cursing in front of my kids, they will be escorted out. Everyone should make the rules in their own home.

As for spending time with people, if those people really want to spend time with you they will have the common courtesy to call first, IMHO. If that is too much trouble for them, then they don't need to come over.