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[Tinkrbl44]

On 12/8/2014 jazzybelle said:

On 12/8/2014 AnnaBella said: LOL! When I read the Thread title I thought you wanted us to tell you our weight!

I really appreciate the laugh!

I thought the same thing ..... and wondered how many would tell their weight!

[Shorty2U]

On 12/8/2014 Kachina624 said: It's really very simple...you're a giver and she's a taker. Unless you draw the line and put your foot down, it will always be this way with the two of you. I would start withdrawing my support of her unless you want to be a permanent doormat.

I agree with Kachina here and I had to learn that the hard way (with a friend not a relative). If I were you, I wouldn't be available to her, see how she likes that. Last but not least I am sorry for what you are going through and I am also sorry for the recent loss of your loved ones over the past years. You seem like a wonderful person. Best to you.

[qualitygal]

Just my two cents to take what it's worth. That female is spoiled!! Her first? No, stop it now. Dead in it's tracks, you don't have to be giving anymore, because, when the line has been drawn in the sand, she isn't able to give back. So she's a taker and you are a giver. Friendship works both ways even if it's a relative, more so if it was a thought-to-be friend.

Again, just my two cents.

[feline groovy]

Unfortunately, people have become much more self-righteous and self-important nowadays.

I'm sorry that this is going on and has hurt you somewhat, and I do agree with you.

Plus, I just wanted to give you

[Jazzybelle]

On 12/9/2014 Shorty2U said:

On 12/8/2014 Kachina624 said: It's really very simple...you're a giver and she's a taker. Unless you draw the line and put your foot down, it will always be this way with the two of you. I would start withdrawing my support of her unless you want to be a permanent doormat.

I agree with Kachina here and I had to learn that the hard way (with a friend not a relative). If I were you, I wouldn't be available to her, see how she likes that. Last but not least I am sorry for what you are going through and I am also sorry for the recent loss of your loved ones over the past years. You seem like a wonderful person. Best to you.

Thank you, Shorty.

[Jazzybelle]

On 12/9/2014 feline groovy said:

Unfortunately, people have become much more self-righteous and self-important nowadays.

I'm sorry that this is going on and has hurt you somewhat, and I do agree with you.

Plus, I just wanted to give you

Thank you, feline - I really needed those hugs.

[feline groovy]

On 12/9/2014 jazzybelle said:

On 12/9/2014 feline groovy said:

Unfortunately, people have become <em>much</em> more self-righteous and self-important nowadays.

I'm sorry that this is going on and has hurt you somewhat, and I do agree with you.

Plus, I just wanted to give you

Thank you, feline - I really needed those hugs.

[hyacinth003]

I think a friendship has to work both ways.

However, when I was single, had no husband, or no children, my life was WAY less complicated.

Things I thought were a big deal really were not in comparison. Add in very little work time and life would have been pretty simple.

She should respect your time, but really, it's no comparison.

Hyacinth

[faeriemoon]

She could have said, "I know you bend over backward to accommodate my schedule, but unfortunately, this time I cannot do the same for you."

But she didn't.

[adelle38]

On 12/9/2014 hyacinth003 said:

I think a friendship has to work both ways.

However, when I was single, had no husband, or no children, my life was WAY less complicated.

Things I thought were a big deal really were not in comparison. Add in very little work time and life would have been pretty simple.

She should respect your time, but really, it's no comparison.

Hyacinth

How do you that? Just because she's single and doesn't have children doesn't mean her life is less complicated. You don't know what else she has going on in her life.