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[Greeneyedlady21]

If your sister is a control freak it's not surprising that her daughter behaves this way. There are men who are groomzillas too.

Weddings have become such a circus and a social media photo op. That could be a reason for the color rules, for social media pictures. She must be the focus, that seems obvious.

It's all about the wedding these days, not so much about the marriage. A simple inexpensive wedding probably leads to a good marriage.

[Trailrun23]

My sister and her husband will be footing the bill, but an hoping my niece will be pitching in since she has a well-paying job. She has been with the same large company since she graduated from college, so I would think she could handle some of these totally unnecessary extras. She also has two younger sisters, so my sister and brother in-law have more to look forward to. As far as the light blue dress....I am telling her other aunts wear that color...but THIS aunt does not! 

[Trailrun23]

I think she has been spending too much time on social media looking at what other people who call themselves " influencers" say what the wedding rules are today. I thought she would be old enough to know better, but this is her first wedding so guess she is still a rookie anyway. The wedding is far enough away that I hope she changes her mind as it gets closer....

[sugar plum]

@Trailrun23

You should wear whatever color makes you feel confident and pretty. It's that simple.

Perhaps if you have a discussion with her about this issue and show her the dress you will be wearing, she'll change her mind once she sees how pretty you look in the dress you chose. It's worth a try.

[Snoopp]

Weddings can be whatever you want them to be.  I'm such a practical person, I would prefer a small gathering and put the money towards a home.  

[Zoe]

Sounds as if your niece is caught up on the event and perhaps having the "perfect" social media photos to post. @Trailrun23 do you feel she is as focused on the marriage as it sounds like she is on the wedding? The wedding is one day; the marriage is (hopefully) a lifetime.

[kaydee50]

I'd send my regrets and wish them much "luck" and happiness.

[AngelPuppy1]

I haven't been in a wedding in ages, so I don't know what the norm is.  Sounds like this woman is just making up her own rules, which is fine, I guess, since it's her day.  I just hope that her expectation and wishes about what she wants to do and where she wants to go and what she wants everyone to wear is not going to be a burden on everyone involved.  Is everyone involved in the bridal party paying for the stay at the fancy hotel and for the professional makeup and hair?  Are all the bridesmaids paying for their dresses?  If so, I hope they all have "deep pockets".  I think it is ridiculous for her to say though that you, as an aunt, are required to wear "pale blue".  I never heard of that, but I'm sure no authority on wedding rules!  I wonder is she is also stating in her invitations what she is expecting as gifts? I have hears that now many brides are stating that they want no gifts -- only money!  Tacky....  Well, best of luck.... 

[RollTide2008]

I would smile and nod and move on with my life.

[ccd]

My daughter is getting married in June in Carmel-By-The-Sea, Calif.  She 35, 3 bridesmaids, 3 flower girls, 1 ring bearer and definitely not a bridezilla. She told both her mum and mother "n" law to be comfortable but please don't wear white! Her bridesmaids are wearing dusty blue and they get to pick a style they feel comfortable in.

We offered to take both families to Maui for a wedding but her fiancé wanted a big wedding! It's certainly too late now,  but I know they both think that would have been cheaper and less stressful. Family from both sides are flying from all over the country so we need to do rehearsal dinner with drinks afterwards, wedding then a post wedding brunch. A lot of planning but we have 1 daughter and she's been a dream bride to work with and it's her and her fiancés vision. The bachelorette is a spa weekend....she did all that with her friends when she was younger! My daughter felt that was all for social media! I believe when they get married a bit older they are doing things they really want not what they "should" be doing. Covid certainly seems to have up the costs and no room to negotiate but that's due to the destination I believe.