Wedding Rant UPDATE - Page 4

Suziepeach · ‎03-10-2010

If we were to receive an invitation from someone either of us hadn't seen in years, I'd laugh, RSVP not coming, nor would we buy a gift..

Our neighbors children, we've known them since they were itty bitty.. With their graduation invites, to Mr and Mrs.. no name plus on the inner card, nada.. LOl I asked them why didn't you do them correctly.. Oh someone was helping.. so you didn't do your own invitations.. mostly the young man.. plus instead of mailing them, in the mailbox.. Sorry but that's tacky and not etiquette... of which doesn't exist much anymore..

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KathyPet · ‎03-09-2010

This is not a "Plus 1" situation. It is absolutely a serious breach of etiquette not to invite both a husband and wife to. Wedding.

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

I wouldn't be interested in attending this wedding, even if the invitation was correct. Also, I'd just send a beautiful wedding card. Seems to me that this invitation was an after-thought because you happened to cross paths at a funeral. For sure, I wouldn't be offended in the slightest way. Seems that others were writing out the invitations and using the designated return address label. That happens more often than not, now-a-days. I'll take it a step further..........(some) moms haven't been teaching their kids, from a young age, to write (email now-a-days) their own thank you's for gifts. Moms are doing 'way too much' these days! Give some responsibility to their children, so they can handle their own lives, do their own 'thank you's' throughout their lives. My mom would always ask: 'Have you sent your thank you notes to _ _ _, _ _ _, _ _ _? (out of town relatives) ..... So, it became very natural for me to write out many thank you notes/cards to many people. In other words, wish I had a dollar for every thank you I've (happily) sent! (lol)

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stargazer · ‎03-10-2010

I don't understand why you are even upset about this. You've seen him once since he was a toddler ? I wouldn't even send a gift.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

..huh? Why would you cancel plans for the wedding of someone you don't know and haven't seen since he was a baby? He doesn't know you and obviously you didn't make an impresson at the funeral. It sounds like someone told him that you were wating for a wedding invitation and after the regrets came in, he sent one out to you, to the name he knew you as. He didn't remember that you were married and for some reason didn't care enough to find out. I think think it's a fiasco but you own it, your hubby shouldn't have cancelled his trip until you had the invitation.

hyacinth003 · ‎03-12-2010

It was probably a mistake. Someone doing the invitation didn't know who was who.

However, I did personally address all my wedding invitations, and it was a large wedding.

Since many of those who were invited were from my parents and my husband's parents, I made SURE of getting the right wording for all invitations. I also included "guest" for anyone receiving a single addressed invitation.

I was on the phone a lot to clarify who was who, married or not, whatever clarification was needed to have the invitation be PROPER.

I also hand wrote personalized thank you notes for every gift we received.

I think common courtesy and etiquette can be very lacking sometimes. It's not that hard to get it right. People are not being taught this enough.

Hyacinth

hyacinth003 · ‎03-12-2010

@ROMARY wrote:
I wouldn't be interested in attending this wedding, even if the invitation was correct. Also, I'd just send a beautiful wedding card. Seems to me that this invitation was an after-thought because you happened to cross paths at a funeral. For sure, I wouldn't be offended in the slightest way. Seems that others were writing out the invitations and using the designated return address label. That happens more often than not, now-a-days. I'll take it a step further..........(some) moms haven't been teaching their kids, from a young age, to write (email now-a-days) their own thank you's for gifts. Moms are doing 'way too much' these days! Give some responsibility to their children, so they can handle their own lives, do their own 'thank you's' throughout their lives. My mom would always ask: 'Have you sent your thank you notes to _ _ _, _ _ _, _ _ _? (out of town relatives) ..... So, it became very natural for me to write out many thank you notes/cards to many people. In other words, wish I had a dollar for every thank you I've (happily) sent! (lol)

Our mothers came from the same school! She was always on me to send thank you notes right away for any gift.

And they were right too. I did it for any and all gifts I received throughout my life. My wedding shower, wedding, and baby shower were also events I hand wrote to every single person giving me a gift. Along with naming what the gift was and how I appreciated getting it.

I have taught my daughter to do it also. It's the least one can do for a gift.

I sent gifts to nieces for quite awhile and never got thank yous. So, I stopped sending them!

Hyacinth

sunshine45 · ‎03-09-2010

we are invited to two weddings in the next two months.....one august, one september. both of the invitation envelopes were done by calligraphers, not by the brides. not everyone has beautiful handwriting or even printing these days to address their own envelopes.

i also dont think it is absolutely necessary to have a plus one if you are not married or in a long term relationship.

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viva923 · ‎03-12-2010

quite a problem indeed.

I have a feeling a business was given the job of sending invites and address books were NOT updated and it was an oversight.

I would have done the same as you, send back regrets. This couple knew you were married.

I know this may be mean or some call naughty but I would send them a card with the wedding invitiation back and tell them you were deeply disappointed that your husband was not invited, and your are Mrs so n' so, not an unmarried spinister.

the event is probably on a tight budget and only XX amount of people can attend this event. But to make this a budget friendly event, the wedding payees should not have excluded spouses. If budget was tight, have a buffet and roll up your sleeves type wedding (which I think is a "funner" event). More casual and less drama on decorum of which fork or knife to use for this plate.

Katcat1 · ‎07-21-2011

Isn't that what most people do is invite expecting money? That's why I had a small wedding and only invited close friends and some family. I sincerely do not understand when couples invitie 300+ plus people but it's hoping to get money back to cover the wedding. I am glad to hear to are not attending. If they did not look over the invited list of names and catch your prior name, they are not worth the time of day. Take your money and enjoy yourself with your husband.

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