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[LilacTree]

On 3/5/2015 BlueCollarBabe said:

But, Ford, in this case the daughter does not live with her parents. Different situation. But I agree that I would not get upset over it. I would just chalk it up to people's increasingly ignorant behavior. And I would call my niece and tell her that I would contact my daughter for her (making it clear that she lives elsewhere) and that if she can come she will of course be bringing an escort. LOL.

I'm sorry BCB, but I don't see it as being so awful. Honestly, life is so filled with real angst (I know mine is). I am trying to understand, but this would just not bother me.

I am not trying to be contrary, maybe it's the place I'm at right now.

[BellaPaprika]

On 3/5/2015 colliegirls said:

On 3/5/2015 BlueCollarBabe said:

But, Ford, in this case the daughter does not live with her parents. Different situation. But I agree that I would not get upset over it. I would just chalk it up to people's increasingly ignorant behavior. And I would call my niece and tell her that I would contact my daughter for her (making it clear that she lives elsewhere) and that if she can come she will of course be bringing an escort. LOL.

Having recently been involved in a wedding, DO NOT EXPECT OR ASK TO BRING A GUEST UNLESS THEY ARE INVITED!! PERIOD!!

I know things are changing and I know that people are not shy about telling everyone how much things cost and what their budget is. But if I could not pay for my single guests to bring an escort if they wish then I would find another way to save money. Many people, male and female, will not attend a party alone. Many people don't want to get up and dance with strangers or their uncle.

[brii]

Sometimes it's not about how much the wedding costs, it's about the venue. If you have a lot of younger people who aren't engaged or married, that could really add a lot to the guest list. The room may not hold all those people comfortably.

[VanSleepy]

Don't worry about the young singles at weddings; they're all hooking up by the end of the night lol

[BellaPaprika]

On 3/5/2015 VanSleepy said: Don't worry about the young singles at weddings; they're all hooking up by the end of the night lol

Good Lord! What an assumption to make. Never saw anyone alone at a wedding that I would have been interested in when I was single.

[ROMARY]

p.s. When invitations don't include 'And guest', please don't bring a date. Often times the single folks gravitate toward one another and end up having their 'own party'. And lots of fun, too! Meeting new friends and acquaintances, etc. It's a small world, and sometimes we meet special, long-term people who we wouldn't have met if we attended weddings with 'dates'.

[Allegheny]

On 3/5/2015 CelticCrafter said:

They had her address when they invited her to the engagement party and the bridal shower.....

I hope other posters take the time to read your additional post.

My own feelings on this: Yes if I was your daughter I would feel offended not to get my own invitation at my own address. Would I make an issue of it? Probably not. Would I attend the wedding and reception? Only if I wanted to.

[BellaPaprika]

On 3/5/2015 ROMARY 1 said:

p.s. When invitations don't include 'And guest', please don't bring a date. Often times the single folks gravitate toward one another and end up having their 'own party'. And lots of fun, too! Meeting new friends and acquaintances, etc. It's a small world, and sometimes we meet special, long-term people who we wouldn't have met if we attended weddings with 'dates'.

I clearly understand that you are not to just bring a date without it being included on the invitation. I guess my point is that unless you can offer your single adult guests that option you should find another way to cut costs so you can afford the extra meal or a slightly larger venue. I never thought of weddings as a type of dating service. Generally I find everyone sticks with their date and people they already know.

[BellaPaprika]

On 3/5/2015 Allegheny said:

On 3/5/2015 CelticCrafter said:

They had her address when they invited her to the engagement party and the bridal shower.....

I hope other posters take the time to read your additional post.

My own feelings on this: Yes if I was your daughter I would feel offended not to get my own invitation at my own address. Would I make an issue of it? Probably not. Would I attend the wedding and reception? Only if I wanted to.

I agree. Since the bride did have her cousin's address, it would seem that including her on the invitation to her parents (with whom she does not live) is a not so tactful way to get around the question of her bringing an escort.

[ROMARY]

Maybe they ordered a certain amount of invitations. And a few extras would have cost them the price of another 'batch'. Really, I wouldn't instill any bad feelings over to my daughter. Forgive and forget. Enjoy the day. I have a feeling that your daughter will meet a few new friends, and enjoy celebrating the Bride and Groom's special day. Be glad that this special cousin was invited. Sometimes many/some cousins aren't invited at all.