Community Chat

[riley1]

Since it is your DH's cousin, have him call and explain the situation. And, she said she would see you at the wedding -

[RainyDayGal]

If you don't want to call the bride directly, call her mother.  But call someone!  It's simple enough to straighten it out.

[GCR18]

Call the bride.

[GenXmuse]

Call right now and then let us know what she said, please. I'm positive it was a glitch. 

[Ms X]

Is there someone your husband could call who would be familiar with the guest list (or who could find out) who is not the bride or groom?  That way, they wouldn't be directly put on the spot and your husband wouldn't feel awkward if they didn't send the invitation.  I'd prefer to go through back channels to check.  He can tell the intermediary that the bride said she'd see you at the wedding, but there's been no invitation, and he'd feel just terrible if it got lost in the mail and they thought you didn't bother to come.

[Perkup]

A little note from personal experience.  Some years ago a good friend was to be married to a girl I didn't know.  His Mother and Sister had planned a shower for the bride to be, and I rather expected to be invited.  But no invitation came.  I opted to sit quietly and say nothing, even though I felt a little disappointed and concerned that I might have offended someone somehow.  The groom's Mom, whom I had known since early childhood began to behave in a way that seemed a little "off" to me.  I did get an invite to the wedding.

About four months later, I received the invitation to the shower.  The card had been sent to Decatur, Illinois,  then forwarded to Decatur, Alabama. The problem was I lived in Decatur, Georgia. Lots of postal notes, etc. on the envelope.  It had been bouncing about from one state's post office to another.  I took the bull by the horn and the invitation by the hand and went to the Groom's Mom's house.  She was shocked, as I had been at the USPO inefficiency involved, and we had a good laugh, saving the relationship.

Have your husband call someone right away.  Don't let this fall into the gutter of What Happened.   

[circles]

Many many years ago my sister...mom...sister in law and myself were all invited to the shower of a friend...none of us were invited to the wedding...we, too, heard her say we'll see you at the wedding.....

I say this to remind you that maybe ...even though she said I'll see you at the wedding...she couldn't invite everyone....

If your going to call and ask...be sure to not call the bride...don't put her on the spot in case she really didn't invite you....

[homedecor1]

If you attended bridal shower and others have received their invites I would wait a few days and call.

Case in point, my niece had her invitations hand done by a calligrapher -- she reviewed EVERY address, name spelling, etc. before she gave final list.

I mean this is my goddaughter and so darn funny -- my friends rec'd theirs, my brother got his.....we didn't ....well we did 2 weeks later (and I knew we were getting one!)....

WHY? Our area is Richey -- the calligrapher put Ritchie! And my nephew had his last name spelled wrong -- invites were returned "no such address" and "undeliverable" --

We had a good laugh but my niece was so upset that it was family ones messed up. Please call the bride or groom the postal system does a lot of automation and it's not like years ago the mail was sorted by the carrier. If that was the case, lots would get returned or lost because we have a fill-in mail person 2-3 times a week.

[Pandalady]

@Perkup  Nice to meet a fellow "Georgia Peach"!  My parents had a similar situation happen.  They live in Peachtree City.  One time, my DH and I received a family wedding invitation and they did not.  Their invitation arrived much later. It had traveled to Puerto Rico, of all places!  In the end, everyone attended and it was all good.

@hovis  Let your DH make the call.  I think you'll feel better in the long run.