Wedding Invitation

hovis · ‎10-24-2014

My DH cousin is getting married Aug. 6.and everyone has received their invitation except us. I received a thank you note from the brides shower and she said she would see me at the wedding. The cousins's brother got married last year and we were invited and attended. I am sure the invitation got lost in the mail. My DH wants to call her. But I said no. I just don't feel comfortable telling her that we didn't receive our invitation. What would you do ? Thanks.

fthunt · ‎12-24-2010

Call her! Mistakes happen so get it cleared up now or there will be hard feelings for years. She will be flattered you want to attend her wedding and probably embarrassed you didn't get an invite. Your husband is right!

Preds · ‎12-17-2012

Since you did attend the shower and she said she would see you at the wedding I would assume that meant you were getting an invitation. I would call.

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Iwantcoffee · ‎03-11-2010

If DH wants to call her, I would not object. His family he should call and keep open communication and have a clear understanding about the wedding.

lulu2 · ‎03-09-2010

@hovis

Why not let your husband call his cousin?

february · ‎03-19-2010

Since it's "DH" cousin, then he should handle it. If he wants to call then he should. But who is he calling? Maybe not the bride, but his own Aunt if she is the mother of the cousin. So sorry this happened to yu as weddings seem to be such a chance for glitches to occur and people to get their feelings hurt. No doubt the invite was

lost in the mail. But you both need to know if you're invited : )

mamaslittlepotatoe · ‎04-24-2016

Your husband should definitely call someone very close to his cousin, if not his cousin, ASAP! I'm sure it got lost in the mail or it was an oversight. When people are addressing a lot of wedding invitations, it's very easy to accidently forget someone.

bonnielu · ‎03-11-2010

M ake the call. Whichever one of you is more comforable doing it should have the job. You will probably find it was lost or a mistake of some sort was made.

tedEbear · ‎03-22-2015

We just had a glitch, invite sent, was returned not deliverable, unknown. Invitee was at address, has been 3 yrs. Post office is known to make an error every now and again. Make the call.

gabstoomuch · ‎03-16-2010

I would call. If you don't, and they never hear from you and you do not attend the wedding, there may be hurt feelings all around.

If everyone has their invitation, and you attended the shower, and she said "see you at the wedding", that is enough positive info for you to reach out.

I had this happen with my brother's son. All my kids got invites, and I did not. I was crushed and did not know what was going on. I finally called my brother just to see if there was a reason I was not invited.

He was shocked. He said he mailed it, had no idea why it did not get to me, and was wondering why I had not RSVP'd.

It was so close to the actual wedding date I never even got a paper invite, we just confirmed over the phone. At the wedding he and my nephew made a point to come to me and apologize again.

Had I not reached out, I would have held that hurt for a long time, and my family would have thought I was a snob that I did not bother to go.

Things happen when planning a wedding, oversights happen, a name is checked off as "sent" by accident but the invite never gets into the mail. It is not like you just popped up as some long lost cousin who wants to intrude.