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[missy1]

I would not attend, if I was just invited to the reception, Very tacky invitation!!

Sounds like you can give me a gift to my bridal shower, but you are not invited to the wedding.

@petepetey

[missy1]

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@Carmiewrote:

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@qbetzforrealwrote:

Sounds like your invitation is not an invitation but rather announcement.

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Announcements are sent out the  day after the wedding ceremony, not before.  Well, they are supposed to anyway.

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People send out wedding announcements? For gift grab. Sorry we had our wedding already. I have never received one of those in the mail. Always invited to wedding/reception.

[missy1]

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@I am still oxoxwrote:

Talking about weddings, what is the general rule of thumb for sending thanks you notes.

We went to a wedding Memorial Day last year and no thank you as yet. Our check was deposited with in 48 hours of the wedding.

The bride is the daughter of and old and dear friend, but I think the lack of a thank you is manner less

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They say a year. That is ridiculous imo. I sent out our thank you cards within 2 months or less. People seem to be always on their phone (social media). but can't write a couple of sentences and put a stamp on.

[missy1]

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@faeriemoonwrote:

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@chrystaltreewrote:

It's as straight foward as it can possibly be.  You didn't get the "note" so you aren't invited to the ceremony.  Please do not put the family in an uncomfortable position and embarrass youself by asking.  

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Agree!!!!!

I will also say they handled it badly.  There should have been separate invitations for those who were invited to both, and for those who were only invited to one event.

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Can you imagine the talk of the reception getting separate invitations?

[JeanLouiseFinch]

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@missy1wrote:

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@faeriemoonwrote:

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@chrystaltreewrote:

It's as straight foward as it can possibly be.  You didn't get the "note" so you aren't invited to the ceremony.  Please do not put the family in an uncomfortable position and embarrass youself by asking.  

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Agree!!!!!

I will also say they handled it badly.  There should have been separate invitations for those who were invited to both, and for those who were only invited to one event.

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Can you imagine the talk of the reception getting separate invitations?

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@missy1Really!  Two aunts talking.  One gets invited to the ceremony and reception, the other only to the reception.  The first one says, "Why weren't you at the church?"  The second one says, "I wasn't invited", but in that moment realizes her sister was while she wasn't?  Yes, there are going to be some hurt feelings in this family.

[Carmie]

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@missy1wrote:

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@Carmiewrote:

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@qbetzforrealwrote:

Sounds like your invitation is not an invitation but rather announcement.

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Announcements are sent out the  day after the wedding ceremony, not before.  Well, they are supposed to anyway.

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People send out wedding announcements? For gift grab. Sorry we had our wedding already. I have never received one of those in the mail. Always invited to wedding/reception.

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Marriage  announcements have been  sent out forever.  They are not new.

I have received them from time to time, even from close family members who eloped and family and friends who live too far for me to attend their wedding.

Anouncements are sent out for graduations and births too. They are a token of good manners and not a gift grab.  There is no obligation to send a gift if you receive a wedding announcement. You should send a gift if you receive an invitation to the ceremony or reception.

Just  because you do not do something, or never heard of it does not make it bad manners or a gift grab.  

These things have been socially acceptable for a long, long time.

[Carmie]

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@missy1wrote:

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@faeriemoonwrote:

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@chrystaltreewrote:

It's as straight foward as it can possibly be.  You didn't get the "note" so you aren't invited to the ceremony.  Please do not put the family in an uncomfortable position and embarrass youself by asking.  

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Agree!!!!!

I will also say they handled it badly.  There should have been separate invitations for those who were invited to both, and for those who were only invited to one event.

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Can you imagine the talk of the reception getting separate invitations?

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It is perfectly acceptable to send out invitations to the ceremony or only to the reception only.  People who “ talk” need to brush up on their manners.

i had to take a course on manners and learned a lot of what is socially acceptanle and required.  There are books in print to brush up on manners for every occasion.

[tsavorite]

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@missy1wrote:

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@I am still oxoxwrote:

Talking about weddings, what is the general rule of thumb for sending thanks you notes.

We went to a wedding Memorial Day last year and no thank you as yet. Our check was deposited with in 48 hours of the wedding.

The bride is the daughter of and old and dear friend, but I think the lack of a thank you is manner less

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They say a year. That is ridiculous imo. I sent out our thank you cards within 2 months or less. People seem to be always on their phone (social media). but can't write a couple of sentences and put a stamp on.

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I never heard it was so long....went to my nieces wedding last yr and got a thank you note 7 months later!  My husband side of the family both of his nieces sent the thank you cards out withing a few weeks.  Come to think of it my other niece never sent a thank you note at all a few yrs back.  1yr imo is way too long and so was 7 months.

[Daisy Sunflower]

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@missy1wrote:

I would not attend, if I was just invited to the reception, Very tacky invitation!!

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At first I said I'd be glad that I was only invited to the reception, but I think it's not right to separate guests into two groups. Now that I think about it, I wouldn't attend the reception either.

[occasionalrain]

Wedding announcements allow those receiving them to know the new name of female relatives assuming they decide to take their husband's last name and address. It's not a gift grab. 

A gift grab is inviting those you barely know, haven't seen or spoken to since you can't remember when, and those you know won't or can't attend but will feel obligated to send a gift.