Community Chat

[shorelady]

I think a lot has to do with the part of the country you are from or live in. Bridal regestries are used here for the bridal shower contrary to what others may think that it is only used for the wedding. I have found through experience that if I wait too long to purchase a shower gift from the registry, most of the gifts are gone. We give cash for the wedding. At my daughter's wedding, she received one wrapped gift. It is just the way we do things here.

Recently at a bridal shower in "our neck of the woods" (yes, the East Coast) someone said that where she is from, the gifts for the bridal shower are not nearly as extravagant as what we give here. We sometimes have what is called the "wishing well" where we bring an extra added small gift like a set of spatulas, dish towels, etc. This particular guest said that is what they give as the main shower gift.

Nothing is etched in stone. Do what you are comfortable with and what you can afford.

[haddon9]

I agree with you shore lady. Everyone here tends to give cash for weddings and gifts from the registry tend to be for showers. I can't imagine why anyone would think that a registry is NOT for a shower?!

However if one really prefers to give a gift from the registry for the wedding then do so. How much to spend? Whatever you are comfortable with. We just attended a wedding a few weeks ago for my old next door neighbor's daughter. They moved recently and I was not close friends with them but friendly and they were neighbors for 22 years. DH and I gave $200.00. Some people would give more...some less. They had a gift table set up and I saw no more than 5 wrapped gifts...all were envelopes placed in a birdcage. The reception had just under two hundred people.

[BellaPaprika]

The wedding registry is most definitely for the shower and the wedding. I know from personal experience that cash is appreciated but something you've chosen does seem more personal. Also there's no rule that says you can't give something not on the registry. Something like a silver picture frame for their wedding photo or a lovely vase. Someone might not think to ask for those on their registry but they would still be appreciated, useful and not terribly expensive.

[colliegirls]

I have given many couples Lenox or Waterford picture frames. Everyone needs them, we can never have too many as the years go on.

[millieshops]

If I can find an object I like enough to give it, I give something tangible. I still love walking into the home of a friend or relative and catching sight of a gift I know came from years ago.

Probably that feeling comes from my mother saying, "Careful, that ( ) was a gift from Aunt X when we got married." I was the fourth child, so you know none of that was new, just precious. Hard to say that about a money gift.

[faeriemoon]

On 10/30/2014 VanSleepy said: I think the registry is more for the bridal shower than the wedding, but nothing wrong with getting the wedding gift from there. Send it to the house, though, instead of bringing it to the reception.

Agree!!