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[TaxyLady]

I don't like psychology much because doctors tend to take responsibility for someone's actions and blame it on some sort of disorder. When it is just bad behavior or evil behavior. But, this article is so true. "how a man thinks in his heart, that he will be"

Our thought life determines how we live our lives. We can think negative evil thoughts that will eventually bring death or positive thoughts that bring life.

Every action starts with a single thought. Most of these people who commit terrible evil crimes thought about it for a long time before they acted. The trick is to dispel negative thoughts immediately and dwell on things that are good.

I didn't learn this from psychology but rather scripture. God knows us and spoke many times about our thought life and its influence on our lives.

[Linders Back]

There is absolutely no way anyone who is alive and has a brain can keep themselves from having sad, negative, stressful, or angry thoughts or conversely, having happy, positive, wonderful thoughts.

It is how you respond to those thoughts and act on them that is important. That is what separates the intelligent and thoughtful from the boorish on this earth.

[JustJules]

On 2/17/2014 Lila Belle said:

I don't agree with that guy at all.

Careful Lila Belle, you will be called a jealous sourpuss too.

[Cakers1]

Carlson is making sense if you look at this as a way to overcome relentless unhappiness. I don't read this as never having an unhappy thought; it is the out of control negative thinking that needs to be reined in.

You can feel a moment of stress/anxiety that can come on without a prior thought; it's how we control our stress/anxiety that is the key.

When a negative thought enters, we acknowlege it and let it pass. That's the key - being mindful that it is there but not letting it take over.

Obviously a death, e.g., brings about sad feelings; but talking about life in general is totally different.

Some people cannot see the joy in life because they are so weighted down in misery. It all comes down to perception; you will be what you perceive that which is in front of you.

[Preds]

I agree Cakers. We have to learn to manage, understand, accept and control our own feelings. We have to rule them and not let them rule us.

[bikerbabe]

Unless you experience and allow yourself to feel the negative, you can't appreciate the positive or even mature emotionally. The key is not to let your life become driven and controlled by the bad, which could be the intent of the author's quote.

[pinkskates4]

I remember a class on creativity saying that the most important thing in solving a problem is the belief that a solution is possible.

They cited studies with third graders working with jigsaw puzzles behind a two way mirror who were instructed to say whatever they were thinking.

Overwhelmingly, the ones who said things like - I'm no good at puzzles, see that piece doesn't fit, I can't do this, this is just too hard for me - failed - while the kids who said things like - Oh good a puzzle, I love puzzles, that piece didn't fit so let me try this one, I know I can do this, etc., succeeded.

The power of thoughts.

[heartkeeper]

On 2/16/2014 Jules5280 said:

I think it is a superficial statement, and not practical. Unless we are all robots without feelings, there will be unhappiness, stress and jealousy, among other emotions. When someone we love suffers, we hurt and therefore have unhappiness. "There is nothing to hold your negative feelings in place other than your own thinking." = stupid. Just a bunch of psycho babble.

ITA.

[hckynut]

Short version is how I live and have lived for decades now. It is called ""as an optimist"".

[serenity4ever]

On 2/16/2014 Libbie Hill said:

Sounds like a great prescription for an anxiety disorder. Hold in your feelings and put them out of your mind which usually only accomplishes more stress than actually facing something and doing something about it. I see it as emotional perfectionism and I think suppressing one's feelings often leads to more stress.