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[CalminHeart]

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@Marp wrote:

I hope I would be forgiven if I refused to donate out of fear that someone undeserving would benefit causing someone in need to go hungry because of my fear.

Personally, I'm not willing to say no due to the possibility that someone not in need would benefit.

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Best comment ever!!

[Annabellethecat66]

They probably …most likely don’t …own their car. You can’t sell a car if you don’t earn it. I only give to places where I know all of the money donated will go toward helping others.
A lot of my donations go to animal shelters. My friend from elementary school volunteers at a farm that cares for old horses and animals.

My daughter and I donate to an animal shelter where my daughter got her dog. Eventually I get receipts from each one for tax purposes.

I give because it makes me feel good. I truly believe we are here to help each other. It doesn’t have to be help monetarily. Helping others can come in other forms.

God expects us to help each other.
All of you are wonderful. I’ve missed all of you♥️

[KKJ]

The one I donate to is Salvation Army. They do so much good.

[Ladybug724]

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@beckyb1012 wrote:

I do not do it because I am cheaper than dirt and that includes even buying nail polish at the drug store.  It is just not my thing.

As far as charities go for decades now I send a check every month to two local charities in my city to help feed and clothe families. With extra sent in November and December to the charities

I do not believe if a woman pays for a manicure means she is a woman of means.  That may be her one and only luxury for herself.  

@beckyb1012 I disagree. It's called priorities. If you are in a dire enough situation that warrants a visit to the food pantry, you need to get your priorities in order and NOT spend money on an expensive professional manicure.

You're taking food that could be going to someone who really CAN'T afford a manicure, or anything else.

Home painted nails is one thing. A full on professional manicure is a quite another.

[beckyb1012]

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@Ladybug724 wrote:

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@beckyb1012 wrote:

I do not do it because I am cheaper than dirt and that includes even buying nail polish at the drug store.  It is just not my thing.

As far as charities go for decades now I send a check every month to two local charities in my city to help feed and clothe families. With extra sent in November and December to the charities

I do not believe if a woman pays for a manicure means she is a woman of means.  That may be her one and only luxury for herself.  

@beckyb1012 I disagree. It's called priorities. If you are in a dire enough situation that warrants a visit to the food pantry, you need to get your priorities in order and NOT spend money on an expensive professional manicure.

You're taking food that could be going to someone who really CAN'T afford a manicure, or anything else.

Home painted nails is one thing. A full on professional manicure is a quit another.

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Her comment about nail polish on someone did not just mean a person at a Food Bank.  She considered anyone anywhere wearing nail polish as having plenty of money.  To me nail polish on someone out and about is not enough to judge if they live in poverty or not.

[Ladybug724]

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@beckyb1012 wrote:

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@Ladybug724 wrote:

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@beckyb1012 wrote:

I do not do it because I am cheaper than dirt and that includes even buying nail polish at the drug store.  It is just not my thing.

As far as charities go for decades now I send a check every month to two local charities in my city to help feed and clothe families. With extra sent in November and December to the charities

I do not believe if a woman pays for a manicure means she is a woman of means.  That may be her one and only luxury for herself.  

@beckyb1012 I disagree. It's called priorities. If you are in a dire enough situation that warrants a visit to the food pantry, you need to get your priorities in order and NOT spend money on an expensive professional manicure.

You're taking food that could be going to someone who really CAN'T afford a manicure, or anything else.

Home painted nails is one thing. A full on professional manicure is a quit another.

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Her comment about nail polish on someone did not just mean a person at a Food Bank.  She considered anyone anywhere wearing nail polish as having plenty of money.  To me nail polish on someone out and about is not enough to judge if they live in poverty or not.

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@beckyb1012 My bad, I misunderstood. Anyone can paint their nails at home inexpensively.

[CalminHeart]

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@Ladybug724 wrote:

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@beckyb1012 wrote:

I do not do it because I am cheaper than dirt and that includes even buying nail polish at the drug store.  It is just not my thing.

As far as charities go for decades now I send a check every month to two local charities in my city to help feed and clothe families. With extra sent in November and December to the charities

I do not believe if a woman pays for a manicure means she is a woman of means.  That may be her one and only luxury for herself.  

@beckyb1012 I disagree. It's called priorities. If you are in a dire enough situation that warrants a visit to the food pantry, you need to get your priorities in order and NOT spend money on an expensive professional manicure.

You're taking food that could be going to someone who really CAN'T afford a manicure, or anything else.

Home painted nails is one thing. A full on professional manicure is a quite another.

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Judgements are best left to God or whatever is your higher power. You don't have a clue what's going on in someone else's life. 

[qvcaddition]

@Allthingsgirly67 

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@Allthingsgirly67 wrote:
Before you jump all over me I’m just going to state some simple facts about my situation and then my observation. Not looking for pity but just the backstory. I am a domestic abuse survivor and in the middle of a divorce and living hand to mouth. I don’t even have the heat on in my home. For thanksgiving I went and ordered two thanksgiving dinners for me and my daughter ( have no family here). It was nice nonetheless. So I’m watching my local news station, where this one charity was giving whole Thanksgiving meals to needy families. When they went to bring out the meals, one was in a late model Audi and there was another late model car. I myself have a 15 year old car with a 180,000 miles on it. All I could think was why didn’t sell their cars for a less expensive model or used one at that. I’m sorry but if I had a late model car in my situation I would definitely buy something a lot less expensive or one with no payments. They just didn’t look needy to me if you get what I’m saying. It makes me not really want to donate if I could because I would want to know that the families were in real need of a meal.

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I hear you. I have to go to the senior food bank every once in awhile to supplement food.  All the new cars in line. Mine is a 1997.  I am quite elderly, and don't make enough to make ends meet, so I go about every 3 months. Depending what county you are in is what you get.  The wealthy counties get Turkey, and some good meats, not ours.  Very slim pickings.  What I don't need or use, I return for distribution. A lot of cans goods, which I don't eat.  Nothing to really make a meal. Some are outdated.  I use what I can in the can goods and return the rest. 

I would love flour, eggs, butter or margarine. Something to make a meal.  Beggars can't complain.  What they show being

distributed on TV is not my county. Some of the vegatables are moldy.  San Francisco and Marin county, get the Turkeys and meat.  As least that is what they show on TV.

I do send donations, very small, to St. Jude and the animal shelter. Like 5.00 each.  I just want to give back what I can.

I have learned to make something out of nothing. You can get very creative when you have nothing. They gave hard bagattes and I sliced them, spread with a little oil and parm cheese and roasted.  Was great with my soup.  I also made french toast with the rest.  

Before inflation, I was wasteful with food.  Now, I find a use for everything. 

Took some old pears and made sauce, like you do with apples.

Had some whip cream and made a nice desert.  You do what you have to survive.  When you are older, you are not as hungry.  I'm not starving by any means, just don't eat as lavish as I use to, no fancy desserts.  The bright side is, I no longer have a weight problem and learned how to cook again like when I was a single mom.

I also have a son who will cook a few great meals for me when he cooks.  He will make lasagna and bring enough for a week.

Or meatballs, and I will make spaghetti. I always have sauce in the freezer.  

Like you, I wonder about these new cars in line, but the car payments are taking away from their food budget.

They proberly have huge house payments.  

[shoekitty]

When it comes to food recipients, never assume anything , nothing. Just know there is a reason for the car, the clothes etc.  I had a food charity for years, and I worked at one. First off, I woukd say 99% of the people aren't very fond of waiting for charity food. Most do it as a last resort or great need. The reasons I have found for the fancy car is it could have been loaned to get food, it was given to them, might not even work well. Or they had it, it's paid for??? and then hard times fell. I actually know someone who inherited her moms Mercedes .  It was older , like new. They fell on very hard times when Silicon Valley tech fell a while back. Lost jobs, houses  foreclosed, it was awful. It was the new poor. Many never recovered well. 
Collecting food is humiliating for many, especially if they are new to it. They are ashamed, but they do it for their kids. I have had moms cry, children scream with delight at a box of cereal that's how excited they are at food. I myself have got in the car and cried myself. There are always those who work the system. Always. But those that don't are why we are here for them. I have known of children not having dinner or breakfast and couldn't sleep from tummies growling. Here in a country that throws food away.   The moms are besides themselves. Most are alone with kids, or older folk.   Some are families that are getting buy, but a bag of groceries means the difference between paying co-pay at doctors, a phone being turned off or....eating. It's a mixed bag, but I always feel if they ask, feed them.  Who knows?

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Some people do not have car payments.