Community Chat

[Marianne1]

EMT: I did not say you had to be married to have an opinion.

I asked if Kitty was married because I do think that people come to their opinions from different ways and their own lives.

It was a discussion, not an accusation.

But now you have edited your post, so this post just looks crazy.

[PIT-HAG Melissa]

On 2/18/2014 Marianne is complicated said:

EMT: I did not say you had to be married to have an opinion.

I asked if Kitty was married because I do think that people come to their opinions from different ways and their own lives.

It was a discussion, not an accusation.

But now you have edited your post, so this post just looks crazy.

Thank you for the response...

I edited because I didn't want it to be taken the wrong way...

[AngusandBuddhasMom]

Well I am sticking with my original post.

[lulu2]

I am not an expert on divorce (thank goodness) but after 36 years of marriage wouldn't the OP be entitled to a percentage of their assets as well as alimony?

Who knows, maybe he does not love her and would be more than willing to call it quits.

[Catitude]

"You don't fully understand" is not meant to devalue another opinion or "viewpoint." Marianne wasn't doing that.

If I climbed Mt. Everest and you professed to know how it felt but you never climbed it, how would you even begin to understand it?

[PIT-HAG Melissa]

P.S.Marianne-

THAT is part of the reason I edited...

My last comment was referencing PEOPLE, in general, not your post...

[Marianne1]

On 2/18/2014 EMTHeart13 said:

P.S.Marianne-

THAT is part of the reason I edited...

My last comment was referencing PEOPLE, in general, not your post...

we are cool.

[PIT-HAG Melissa]

On 2/18/2014 Marianne is complicated said:

On 2/18/2014 EMTHeart13 said:

P.S.Marianne-

THAT is part of the reason I edited...

My last comment was referencing PEOPLE, in general, not your post...

we are cool.

THANK YOU....

[adelle38]

On 2/18/2014 lulu2 said:

I am not an expert on divorce (thank goodness) but after 36 years of marriage wouldn't the OP be entitled to a percentage of their assets as well as alimony?

Who knows, maybe he does not love her and would be more than willing to call it quits.

It depends on the state and how the assets are listed but alimony is not necessarily in the picture any more.

[croemer]

On 2/18/2014 Opurrra said:

On 2/18/2014 croemer said:

I agree Opurrra, the age thing is a really tuff one. Then there is the lack of jobs. Her husband may not be perfect but sounds like he is basically a good man who does try to do things for her. I know many women whose husbands gave up trying to please the wife, work on the marriage and are down right selfish.

I just say she should consider all options...take her time to think this thru and maybe some counseling to make darn sure this is what she wants.

HiYa Croemer. I agree. She needs to consider all her options.

Hi Opurrra, if nothing else the O/P has gotten a lot of advice pro and con and maybe she can read and re-read this thread and think about her options and what she might face. Its a good thing.