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[ripka junkie]

@kittykatkay 

I think that is a great ideal if you could get the address to send cards to @ShowMe  great deal, thank you!

[viva923]

hey all

quiet night. Went to church tonight then had to run grandson back to his mom tonight. Went to Applebee's for dinner, home and showered. Last load in washer.

watching my ol' movies. Not much else tomorrow guys

[RedTop]

Sadly, my experience with terminal patients in a Hospice facility is that they are usually heavily medicated for pain control, and drift in and out until the end.  There is no level of awareness for conversation, calls, the ability to read cards, or even know there are visitors in and out.   

[Cakers3]

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@RedTop wrote:

Sadly, my experience with terminal patients in a Hospice facility is that they are usually heavily medicated for pain control, and drift in and out until the end.  There is no level of awareness for conversation, calls, the ability to read cards, or even know there are visitors in and out.   

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@RedTop   Perhaps but we do not know at what stage ShowMe is at right now, so I'm not giving up just yet that she cannot receive some comfort either from a card-even if it is read to her,  a visit, or even somebody reading these posts to her.

I understand what you are saying; I think many of us, myself included, have had loved ones in hospice.

I do believe, however, that no matter how much a person may not appear to be aware that there is still that bit of spark in them that can allow them some comfort beyond the medications.

Just the comfort of human kindness and care, I think, can ease the transition from here to beyond.

[golding76]

...and, not only do we not know what stage of her transition ShowMe is in, we also know that there are good days and bad days.

On good days, the patient is alert or somewhat alert and receptive to news and well-wishes.  On bad, they do not have the energy for anything but continuing their struggle of being in this world.

[Hippiified]

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@golding76 wrote:

Like so many of you, I think of ShowMe and wonder what sort of day she is having.  May it be a comfortable and loving one.

One of you gentle ladies (or several of you) have written that we wish for her to be comfortable and and to have loving and caring caretakers.  That is my fervent wish, too.

It would be nice if those who are in contact with ShowMe continue to let her know that we love her and miss her calming presence.

ShowMe was an artist, in a sense.  Through her wise musings and chronicling of ordinary, daily events, she revealed to us the beauty of our existence.  Ordinary time, in ordinary lives had their beauty revealed to us.  Thank you, ShowMe.  You gave us an invaluable lesson in life.

Was there anything more reassuring and comforting than these words of hers: "Well, I'm tired and getting into my jammies now.  Sweet dreams, everyone."

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So beautiful.  You have a way with words.

[fourpaws56]

I agree with cakers..I believe in miracles, I am not giving up on her. I am praying she gets better and comes back here to tell us all about her ordeal. I went to Church  tonight,lit a candle,and  prayed...it was windy and pouring rain...I felt her presence....

[Grand Happy]

When I talked with Showme's sister a couple of days ago, she said that she's very aware even joking about hugs from the tall dark and handsome nurses.
It does take her time to think about what she wants to say and complete a sentence. I believe with all my heart that she would love Christmas cards from us.
Sadly I couldn't get a hold of her sister today, I'll try again tomorrow and let you all know.
Good night and God bless.

[Cakers3]

@kittykatkay @Grand Happy @fourpaws56

I want to thank you for contributing to this thread and for all you do to keep us up to date about ShowMe.  I know it must be very difficult especially because you all have had offline friendships.

I used to read the Mr. Lucky thread;  I don't believe I ever posted on it but I know I posted to ShowMe here and there about her first battle with cancer.

I enjoyed that thread very much; I tend to sit back and read rather than post on long threads, just my preference since I don't always know everyone.  It's just uplifting for me.

You never know who is reading; I'm sure there are some who do but do not post.

I hope I didn't miss anyone who is updating us; I just wanted you to know that.

[catwhisperer]

My thoughts go out to Showme. I lost my DH six months ago to cancer. Sudden and unexpected. It's a rough journey for those of us who are going through it.