Valentine's Day Snub!

JSpring · ‎04-28-2014

We went to a Super Bowl party at friends we did a lot with when our kids were in high school but now usually just go to their annual party although we have had dinners out on Valentine's Day. It's always fun so I wanted to do more with them and another couple. I suggested we all have a meal at our place. Either Valentine's Day, the weekend before, or the weekend after. The third couple was open for any date. The couple hosting the party was enthusiastic and said they'd let me know what was good.

Last Thursday, I Facebook messaged the wife. I got word that the husband was sick, could they reschedule. I thought it weird since I gave 3 very separate dates. Well, tonight on Facebook, that couple posted a pic enjoying Valentine's dinner at a restaurant. The husband looked very healthy.

Clearly, they really didn't want to come over for dinner. Why lie? You always get caught. I would so love to comment that I thought he was sick but I decided not to. I think I'm just going to avoid them from now on and never reschedule that offer. I will add they pulled something like this once before at the last minute but didn't have the Facebook proof.

Am I being too harsh or missing something? No mean comments, I'm kinda hurt the way it is

cherry · ‎03-09-2010

Sometime we just outgrow our friends. I think you are wise to let it go and move on

LyndaGee · ‎03-11-2010

You have every right to be angry with the woman. That wasn't nice at all. She sounds like someone to stay far away from - I'm so sorry you had this experience.

Drythe · ‎07-09-2011

@JSpring

OUCH! I'm sorry this happened.

My feelings would be hurt too + I'd be a bit POed.

Everything has a season, maybe your season with them has come to a close.

"Animals are not my whole world, but they have made my world whole" ~ Roger Caras

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

I guess on *thee* day, they wanted to be a schmoozing couple, and I get that.

Maybe you'll call and ask if it's still on for this weekend?

Either way, Happy St. Valentine's Day--it's not over!

MezzieStarr · ‎10-28-2012

Maybe they wanted a romantic Valentine's dinner for just the 2 of them and didn't want to hurt your feelings. Or (sorry) they just don't want to hang out with you. I've dumped friendships before. Maybe you should dump them and get new friends.

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

I think your friends are rude and have no class. You didn't miss anything. Maybe they wanted to spend V Day alone, if so they should have just said so.

I would write them off of your social list. With friends like this, who needs enemies?

happycat · ‎09-18-2010

I'm sorry. I have a friend, who I think has done me the same way. Not over dinner, but just the two of us getting together. Wants to get together unless she gets a better offer.

It gets old, and after the first time, I just distanced her.

Now, when she and I have plans, I don't put that much into it.

I am sorry though, it is never a fun feeling to be snubbed.