@gabstoomuch wrote:
Years ago, you could always tell when you were on speaker phone because it sounded different. Hollow, with a tin can type sound.
Now, phones have come so far you really can't tell anymore. That is also true for when someone is talking hands free and the call is going through their car speakers. You have no way of knowing because newer cars are so quiet inside it is impossible to know someone is driving unless they say so.
I hate it when I find out at the very end of a conversation that I was on speaker (for personal phone calls). I feel very betrayed, especially if talking of things personal in nature.
I had a very personal conversation with someone recently, discussing a life problem, I just needed to talk to someone. I thought I could trust this person.
She said something in that conversation that upset me, but I did not address in the moment. However, in a few days I called to discuss her comment. She denied ever saying it! When I said "yes, you did", she came back with "I did not! and I can prove it! My phone was on speakerphone the whole time and my uncle was sitting right next to me on the couch. He heard the whole conversation".
I was at first crushed, then felt very betrayed because of the nature of the call. If I wanted to discuss my business with her whole family I would have gone to her house and had her whole family sit down and listen.
My betrayal turned to anger. I realized that this person is not who I thought she was. Our entire conversation being blasted out on speaker phone showed me she has no boundaries, she had no care there were others in the room, and she didn't have the common decency to even let me know I was on speaker.
I learned a big lesson that day. She is no longer a friend, because now I have no idea how many of our calls have been on speaker, she lied to me, and she brushed off when I asked why she didn't tell me I was on speaker as not a big deal. I realized I was not really her friend if she can't give me the common decency to tell right at "hello".
It affected me so much. Not the loss of a "friend", but now I always ask anyone I call "am I on speaker?". Even if they say no, I am not trusting anymore. It really really affected me.
I hate this new world we live in. There are days when I hate technology, especially phones.
Thank You Everyone for posting and sharing your thoughts and feelings.
@gabstoomuch Although our experience is not identical, my feelings match yours.
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