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Re: UPDATE: a certain football player conversation

women think they can change the ""bad boy"". They always do.

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Re: UPDATE: a certain football player conversation

On 9/9/2014 biancardi said:

women think they can change the ""bad boy"". They always do.

Some women. Not all women.

I wouldn't think I could change a bad boy. I'd be outta there.

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Re: UPDATE: a certain football player conversation

On 9/9/2014 biancardi said:

women think they can change the "bad boy". They always do.

Yes, they fall for this image and then want to change him. That's where the trouble starts. It's not an image ... it's real and dangerous and they have already been s u cked into it.

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I'm sure the lure of fame and fortune for some women helps to alleviate the sting of being spit on. Shades of Nicole Brown Simpson.

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Women are nurturers. You can't change somebody who is like that. It just won't happen. You wind up investing all that time into a bad relationship, and then you feel like you're stuck in it. It's a vicious cycle.

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On 9/9/2014 biancardi said:

I can only speak from personal experience. It is not the woman's fault.

You do not know why she stays, or puts up with it. Some of it could be for a deluded notion of love, insecurity, wanting to make things work.

some of the comments here about this woman make me sick. Nothing she has done, nothing at all, translates into the right that RR can beat her and treat her like that. No wonder abused women are afraid to come out into the light ~ with women making judgments on her behavior, I am not surprised.

Well said. With all we know about domestic violence and why women stay, it's alarming that some just don't get it.

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Who is saying it's her fault?

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On 9/8/2014 minkbunny said:

I was speaking about this woman having so little self respect (and obviously self esteem) that she not only stayed with this horrific abuser - she MARRIED him !

Some battered women try to escape and hide from their abusers while others marry them.

At what point is a woman responsible for her own well-being and safety?

Hence my point about her needing therapy and believing that getting knocked out is acceptable.

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On 9/9/2014 Opurrra said:

I'm sure the lure of fame and fortune for some women helps to alleviate the sting of being spit on. Shades of Nicole Brown Simpson.

this sounds very much like blaming the victim

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On 9/9/2014 mstyrion said:
On 9/9/2014 Opurrra said:

I'm sure the lure of fame and fortune for some women helps to alleviate the sting of being spit on. Shades of Nicole Brown Simpson.

this sounds very much like blaming the victim

I stand by what I said. I'm not "blaming" her, per se, but some women are lured into relationships with men who are rich and famous. Carmen Electra was in a bad relationship with Dennis Rodman. He beat her and she left. I'm sure if Rodman was working at McDonald's she wouldn't have taken a second look at him.