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[Snoopygrl]

I lost my wonderful mother this past October.  I'm still grieving.  I took care of her this past year and was honored to do so.  I agree with you.  There is nothing like a mother's love.  I too miss her so much.  This past Christmas was horrible without her.  She was the glue that kept our family together.  Our pastor says it's a grieving process and we must go through it but it's awful.  Thanks for sharing.

[Spacrazy]

Oh, honey, I wish I could give you a big squeeze hug...

[meallen616]

@Jordan2, and everyone,

[Porcelain]

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@GenXmuse wrote:

My mother died last week after a long battle with dementia so I can relate. Hopefully your memories of her will sustain you. 

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I'm sorry. Just know that reaching out just a little like you did, brought you lots of love from all of us thinking of you.

[hckynutjohn]

@Jordan2 

My story is similar to yours, just several decades sooner. I lived with my mother during the years she was still working, and also after her heart condition forced her to have to quit.

Like you, the day she died is burned into my brain. That day is a happy day for most because it is February 14th, Valentine's Day. I have told my maternal history of deaths here several times. Here it is one more time.

My maternal grandfather died on February 14, 1943/my maternal grandmother died 13 years later on February 14, 1956.. Then my mother died on that same day, 13 years later, on February 14th, 1969. I was 29 years old when she died.

It was just 5 years ago when my mother-in-law died, 1 month before her 91st birthday. My wife at times, would get annoyed by certain things her mother did over the many years I knew her. I reminded her how lucky she was to still have her mother to talk with at any time she wished. She understood, but after her mother died is when she truly understood it.

Time does help with this, but it is a day anyone that had a loving mother, will never forget. 

I am sorry you lost your mother on this day 2 years ago. 🙏

hckynut

[hyacinth003]

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@Jordan2 wrote:

Some of you might remember my posts about my mother. She was sick, I took care of her, and she died. That was two years ago today. So, I don't cry everyday anymore, but after two years I still miss her so much. There is nothing like a mother's love, it's unconditional, there's nothing you could do to lose it. When I hear how some people don't see their mother much or think they are a burden it makes me sad. I tell people you need to cherish your mother, one day she'll be gone and you will wish you had given her more  of your time. 

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@Jordan2 

I lost my mother in 2009 after her long battle with MS.  She needed to be at peace.  That helped me, but I still miss her very much.

I lost my Dad 2 years ago, and still feel like someone is stabbing me in the heart.  I do still cry about it.  Is it the losing of both parents?  I don't know.

And I totally agree with you about the unconditional love, and wishing you could make others understand about not having their mother.  I even have told my own daughter (not in a self serving way) how it feels when she gets nasty to me.

So I totally understand what you have said.  So sorry about the loss of your beloved mother.

Hyacinth

[SoCal Bred]

@GenXmuse  - So sorry to hear about the loss of your mom.  Condolences to you and your family.  May she rest in peace.

[amyb]

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@Jordan2 wrote:

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@amyb wrote:

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@Jordan2 wrote:

Some of you might remember my posts about my mother. She was sick, I took care of her, and she died. That was two years ago today. So, I don't cry everyday anymore, but after two years I still miss her so much. There is nothing like a mother's love, it's unconditional, there's nothing you could do to lose it. When I hear how some people don't see their mother much or think they are a burden it makes me sad. I tell people you need to cherish your mother, one day she'll be gone and you will wish you had given her more  of your time. 

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@Jordan2 Sending you hugs~as I feel for you. I lost my mom in April of 2020. I was her only child, and we were very close. I also took care of her in her later years...she lived to be 91, almost to 92..until this awful virus. What a way for this daughter to lose her mom...I used to call myself the "helicopter daughter" ...overseeing her care, and being her champion...to then not be able to be with her at the end, and really know what was going on in that hospital, devastates me still. I have a million beautiful memories of her though, and always will. I don't express all that to take away from your post or shift the focus to me, just to say I really, really related to your words, so beautifully expressed. In fact, my mom always said exactly what you did "there is nothing like a mother's love." I always knew what that meant intellectually, and I knew that I could never imagine the day when she'd no longer be here. But not until I lost her did I really feel, that suddenly "that love" was definitely no longer in my life...and that love was irreplaceable by anyone else. Nothing feels like the unconditional love of your mom...if you are blessed to have a good relationship.

God bless you and your memories tonight and always. Thank you for posting. I'm sure not only I can relate. xo

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@amyb I'm so very sorry for the loss of your beloved mom. Near  the end my mother was out of it, she went to the hospital to a nursing home, she was only there for a day before she died. This may sound terrible but I don't think my mother or I could have gotten through the COVID protocol, it would have been too hard on both of us. 

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@Jordan2 I've been saying the same thing...the fact that Covid came at all and took my mom sucks. That said...she'd have hated lockdown (she lived in an assisted living near me.) My last "outside her window visit" with only one week into lockdown, she was already saying to me, "How long do you think THIS is going to go on?!!" and "I don't know WHEN I'll be able to get my hair done!" She'd have hated being indoors for over a year, wearing masks, not getting her hair done, going out with me....all of it. I believe, with all my heart, it would have depressed her, taken a toll on her well-being, and then I wouldn't have been able to go take care of her...God knew what He was doing. She would have said "this isn't living" and wanted to go. So, like your mom, she is at peace and never had to live through what would have been a nightmare for her. 🙏💜

[qualitygal]

My dear and lovely mom passed in 2011.  So I'm sending gentle hugs to all of you who share in this event of life.  How lucky we were to have wonderful mothers.

[beckyb1012]

@Jordan2 I do remember your posts and how it brought back all my feelings of loneliness from 2013 when I lost mine.  It heals and then some days the pain is as fresh as the moment it first happened.  I have been dreading today, Feb. 1st since on Feb. 23rd will mark the 1st anniversary of my little brother taking his own life.  I am the last of my little family.  Mom's, Dad's and my little sister's passing were so much easier to understand than my brother's.  

Bless you, you were and still are a precious daughter.

@GenXmuse I so feel for you.  The emptiness was unbearable those first weeks, but knowing her physical pain was no more kept me standing.  Prayers to you and your family.  Talk with us when you need to.  It is so strange that just this morning I was thinking I had not seen any of your posts lately.  The one above put you in my thoughts and on my heart.