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[LucyGoose]

On 5/1/2014 evelomaddict said:

some people are just crabby and it has nothing to do with them being in love or not.

Yes, I agree. I'm one of those people.

[151949]

On 5/1/2014 ennui1 said:

Some people don't like to be alone. 'Alone' isn't for everyone. Alone can be very lonely. And, it's challenging to be alone -- no one to call, ever, for anything.

As for bickering -- you aren't in their relationship 24/7, so you can't judge by what you see. Sometimes there is a strong base there, deep affection. Even couples who bicker can be devastated by loss.

Streetcar Named Desire: (Stella)

"But there are things that happen, between a man and a woman, in the dark, that sorta make everything else seem unimportant."

Just because someone is not in a love relationship with anyone doesn't mean they don't still have friends they can call on when they need to.

[QueenDanceALot]

On 5/1/2014 ennui1 said:

Some people don't like to be alone. 'Alone' isn't for everyone. Alone can be very lonely. And, it's challenging to be alone -- no one to call, ever, for anything.

As for bickering -- you aren't in their relationship 24/7, so you can't judge by what you see. Sometimes there is a strong base there, deep affection. Even couples who bicker can be devastated by loss.

Streetcar Named Desire: (Stella)

"But there are things that happen, between a man and a woman, in the dark, that sorta make everything else seem unimportant."

I'm with Stella!

[Yuban3]

On 5/1/2014 ROMARY said:

I'm back........'Oh, yeh'...........We see a lot (underline lot) of young women driving around these guys (their boyfriends).............how happy could those women be, acting like a mom, driving around her 'son' (boyfriend). I don't get it. Used to be a time when the boyfriend had a car and picked up his girlfriend. What all has happened?

Also, quite a few young women try to buy the love of their boyfriend. Sad, but true. Also, they have this mentality that they can "fix" him. Neither case ever works out.

[QueenDanceALot]

I think that in the beginning stage the "in love" stage, many people are happy constantly, it's a high, it's the infatuation stage. Then, when that either moves into lasting "love" or just fizzles, that's when reality and regular ups and downs return.

Just part of life, right?

[QueenDanceALot]

I would so not be interested in a guy that my mother was hauling around.

Pick me up in your ride, baby!

[Evansmom]

On 5/1/2014 DiscountDiva said: Good evening everybody. My coworker and I were talking about couples in relationships or "in love". I pointed out that one would think that someone happy and in love would be positive and have a sunny disposition. Not always but in general. I have encountered a lot of people who are just the opposite though. I don't know I have never been in love but I've had crushes and just thinking about him made me cheerful. Also, do you know of many people who just cannot be alone and need to be in a relationship all the time even with someone he or she is not crazy about? I'm encountering more and more people like that. Again hard for me to understand since ilike to be alone than in bad company. As always, curious to hear what you all think.

If someone is prone to having a bad disposition it doesn't matter if they are in or out of love. Being in love doesn't necessarily mean they're going to be euphoric all the time. Being in the throws of love and experiencing that high feeling you're talking about only lasts to a certain point and then the relationship moves into different stages. You can be in love but still be suffering from depression, addiction, illness, etc.

[LilacTree]

Neither of my marriages worked. I had several relationships during my younger years, but I have not been interested in a relationship since my early fifties.

I am happier without a man. I like them as friends, not lovers. At 76, I will obviously go out this way and be fine with it. I am seeing the same thing with my daughters. They are middle-aged now and getting less and less interested in men on a serious basis. I don't know if it's us (women) or the men who expect more and more and give less and less. But somehow it's different in the 21st century . . . very different.

As to the second part of your question, my daughters have friends whose "partners" treat them so badly and yet they stay because they are afraid to be without a man. Their men don't put them first, they cheat on them, they take and take and give nothing back . . . and yet these women stay. It drives my girls crazy because they are constantly getting phone calls and having conversations with these women and it's obvious they are desperate and so unhappy. Yet they stay.

[DoneTryin]

Some people "love" another mostly due to the physical attraction, but they don't necessarily like them. Yes, I know that's goofy, but relationships can be extremely complicated because humans are complicated.

Yes, I've known people who just go from one bad relationship to another just because they can't stand being alone. I thnk that's goofy, too, because I'd rather be alone than with someone I'm always having problems with.

My criteria is: Become good friends first. Lovers are a dime a dozen.

[QueenDanceALot]

Why the heck did my post get poofed?

All I said was that I prefer to have a man as a lover (provided we're compatible in that area) than a friend. Not that guy friends aren't good to have. And I like my alone time. I'm not real fond of having man around all the time.

I don't really think that great lovers are a dime a dozen.