Community Chat

[JBKO]

Good evening everybody. My coworker and I were talking about couples in relationships or "in love". I pointed out that one would think that someone happy and in love would be positive and have a sunny disposition. Not always but in general. I have encountered a lot of people who are just the opposite though. I don't know I have never been in love but I've had crushes and just thinking about him made me cheerful. Also, do you know of many people who just cannot be alone and need to be in a relationship all the time even with someone he or she is not crazy about? I'm encountering more and more people like that. Again hard for me to understand since ilike to be alone than in bad company. As always, curious to hear what you all think.

[151949]

I would definitely rather be alone than with someone I don't like. Often times, though, people fall in love with someone who can't make them happy. Sometimes people have mental illnesses and can not be happy no matter who or what is in their lives.You are not inside anyone else's brain so it is not possible to know what is really going on in their lives.

[ROMARY]

'I don't know', but I'm thinking that I've been watching too many Judge Judy episodes........'You know', when very nice, attractive, seemingly intelligent girls are giving their money to those 'losers' (no job, no car, etc.). And then, when they break up, these women want all of their money back. Gee, I might be off topic........I'll have to check out O/P's original thread header.

[ROMARY]

I'm back........'Oh, yeh'...........We see a lot (underline lot) of young women driving around these guys (their boyfriends).............how happy could those women be, acting like a mom, driving around her 'son' (boyfriend). I don't get it. Used to be a time when the boyfriend had a car and picked up his girlfriend. What all has happened?

[evelomaddict]

some people are just crabby and it has nothing to do with them being in love or not.

[tansy]

No matter how good your relationship is you can't be happy every minute of the day and another person cannot make you happy.

[Rock_chick]

I think people get stuck in their ""pattern"" and can't see a way to change it - or just focus on changing the other person and can *never* see their own part. I don't understand people who have been married for years and years and they are full of resentments and snipey comments to each other. It always reminds me how I never want to be. I don't call that in love though.

[ROMARY]

A couple of friends, a couple of days ago, were saying that younger women are just 'h**king up' with boyfriends/friends, etc. Not necessarily looking for marriage. It's a 'fad' of some sort. They have lots of 'friends' and just 'get together' with them whenever they want. No dating, no dinners, etc. I'm guessing that they drive themselves so the fellows won't even have to pick them up!

[ROMARY]

Yes, I dislike listening to 'bantering' couples. The 'back and forth' remarks. So childish. It must be a habit.

[ennui1]

Some people don't like to be alone. 'Alone' isn't for everyone. Alone can be very lonely. And, it's challenging to be alone -- no one to call, ever, for anything.

As for bickering -- you aren't in their relationship 24/7, so you can't judge by what you see. Sometimes there is a strong base there, deep affection. Even couples who bicker can be devastated by loss.

Streetcar Named Desire: (Stella)

"But there are things that happen, between a man and a woman, in the dark, that sorta make everything else seem unimportant."