Community Chat

[Jordan2]

Today was a glorious day, my nephew drove his mother ( my sister) and me to the cemetery to visit my mom, dad, and brother. My nephew is such a good guy, he adored his grandmother. It takes so long traveling back and forth, the visit is so short. I always want to go when my sister goes to the cemetery but I always feel so sad after. I think it's just having the headstone right in front of your face it brings all the memories of the illness and death back. You might think I'm crazy but I talk to them. My brother was a big Mets fan, I told him how well they were doing and wished he was here to see it. I hope he has the best seat in the house. 

[DSD2]

Your opening sentence that "today was a glorious day" showed your love and devotion to your family.

A gravesite is a reminder that our loved ones are no longer with us physically so it is natural that you feel sadness. It evokes memories of their struggles and their passing. But spiritually and emotionally, they live on in our minds and hearts.

I think it is lovely that you talk with your family, reminiscing and updating them on who and what they loved. Angels walk among us as do our loved ones spirits. I have no doubt they were with you and that they love and miss you very much. 

And your nephew sounds like a wonderful person. I'm sure all your loved ones are very proud.

[colleena]

@Jordan2  My trip to the cemetery is similar to yours - love it but it really brings back memories.  So glad I had the time w/each & everyone.

[IMW]

I don't think you're crazy at all. I talk to my parents daily--death does not end a relationship. Not for me, it gives great succor.

[Franklinbell]

I talk to my parents also!  If I am troubled it gives me great comfort. I'm sending you and everyone responding to the post big hug!

[happilyretiredgirl]

@Jordan2  I totally understand your feeling but it so nice to visit, I have a lot of close family that I visit often at the cemetery and I always put flowers on their graves for all holidays.  Don't even think you are crazy for talking to them, I do the same often and my time with them is usually a nice night when I sat on my deck and look at the sky and see the beautiful stars, I will pick a star for each family member and tell them I miss them and I love them. 

[AuntG]

When I dust their wedding pucture, I sing the Camp Granada song to them - "hello muddah, hello fadduh". I'm sure they appreciate it😇.

[twinsister]

Visiting my parents at the cemetery is comforting, but also makes me teary eyed. It brings back happy memories and sad ones too.  I talk to them every day, so I don't think you are crazy.

[Franklinbell]

@AuntG @That's just too cute! That made me smile! Thank you for sharing!

[Susan345]

So many times I hear "they are not there I never go".  But my family are cemetery people.  when I was a kid and my Mother and Grandmother were still alive we went almost every week to visit and water the flowers. 

And today my brother is keeping the tradition alive.  He goes almost every week to water and check on the graves at 3 cemeteries.  Mother must be so proud and is smiling down on him.  One of the things she worried about was "who will do this when I am gone". 

I do not go very often myself because it is a 2 hour trip for me.  And he says that I get in the way and spend too much time fixing things on graves that look like they need attention.