Re: The memorial was wonderful

NC Bandwagon · ‎05-03-2014

Hello, RibbonsRosesRainbows. Sorry about your brother-in-law passing. I hope you, your sister and your family find peace one day. Take care of yourself.

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AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

I'm glad you went to his memorial. As others have suggested, please take things slow, but if it feels right, you might want to consider moving closer to your sister.

stilltamn8r · ‎03-14-2010

On 8/11/2014 RibbonsRosesRainbows said:
Really, you are getting up set because in the late 70's and early 80's I would use a switch on my brothers legs to get them to mind........but it was not all the time and they never had scars......it just stings a little and they are find young men now. They spank their children........sorry if you think spanking your child gentle is child abuse........I disagree..............this is out of control............so I guess you ladies are perfect and never got a spanking growing up. No wonder there are so many brats here that post.

According to you, we are about the same age..My SON was born in 1980..you were a grown woman..How did you have brothers so little that they "wouldn't mind" and needed to be beaten? This just doesnt make sense..

And also, the "scars" that people are talking about, are NOT the physical ones..but the ones that stay with us throughout our lives and cause us to act and react the way we do for the remainder of it..I am sure you know what I mean...

brii · ‎06-20-2010

What's gentle abuse?

NC Bandwagon · ‎05-03-2014

I'm probably going to take a lot of heat for this....but, here goes.

I'm pretty sure this thread might get deleted because there seems to be more than a few personal verbal attacks against the OP. The mods did say that they'll be sorting out these personal verbal attacks, so....just saying. Now, this is just my opinion and I'm not trying to force it on anyone, but I don't think the OP is a bad person and I don't think she "beat" her brothers mercilessly within an inch of their lives. I don't know the OP, but I really didn't get that from her post. Maybe it's just me.

Now, in no way am I saying child abuse is okay. It never, ever is and I'm not saying that what happened to anyone here is made up. But the word abuse is used a lot and some parents have been made miserable by their kids who've said their parents have abused them when they didn't. In some circles, time outs are considered abuse because they say it "isolates the child so they don't feel like part of family." So, many things could be looked at as abuse. There are cases of abuse, but sometimes they turn out to not really be abuse. And anyway, this thread really isn't about all that. It was just about the OP's brother-in-law.

That's just my opinion on it and no one has to take me seriously. I stated my opinion gently and didn't force it anyone. Hopefully, others will show me the same. Please be gentle. I promise I'm not trying to hurt anyone.

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shorelady · ‎03-10-2010

As a poster who has read RRR's posts for quite a while, she has always claimed her problem was some sort of brain injury that makes her the way she is. That is always her excuse or reason for her odd behavior.

Yet this hitting of younger brothers would have occurred long before her "alleged" injury. It is difficult at best to decipher what is true and what is not. She may not even know the difference. People tend to start to actually believe themselves. Many posters here do defend her and believe this brain injury story. Others just get frustrated with her behavior and fairytale posts.

Either way, it is obvious she has problems and should be seeking professional help and not posting here for entertainment purposes. A very sad life indeed!

stilltamn8r · ‎03-14-2010

On 8/12/2014 brii said:
What's gentle abuse?

like being a ""little bit pregnant""?

Cygne · ‎08-07-2014

On 8/11/2014 RibbonsRosesRainbows said:
Really, you are getting up set because in the late 70's and early 80's I would use a switch on my brothers legs to get them to mind........but it was not all the time and they never had scars......it just stings a little and they are find young men now. They spank their children........sorry if you think spanking your child gentle is child abuse........I disagree..............this is out of control............so I guess you ladies are perfect and never got a spanking growing up. No wonder there are so many brats here that post.

It's what they do, get things way out of control by blowing them so far out of proportion that the OP's story is hardly recognizable. Don't pay any attention to their wild imaginations,

irishmama5 · ‎04-18-2013

On 8/11/2014 RibbonsRosesRainbows said:
Really, you are getting up set because in the late 70's and early 80's I would use a switch on my brothers legs to get them to mind........but it was not all the time and they never had scars......it just stings a little and they are find young men now. They spank their children........sorry if you think spanking your child gentle is child abuse........I disagree..............this is out of control............so I guess you ladies are perfect and never got a spanking growing up. No wonder there are so many brats here that post.

Hmmm, we are roughly the same age in the early 80's, I was a grown woman with a child of my own. Are these brothers step brothers? I thought you had a good job and you were married? ( I could be wrong )

Anyway non physical child rearing does not mean that you are raising BRATs anymore than spanking or using a switch produces non BRATs. If you siblings are good men JMO it had ZERO to do with you switching their legs.

If any of my children said that I am a Fabulous Mom but a Bad Parent I would ask WHAT DOES THAT MEAN???? sounds terrible to me. To me a Fabulous Mom would be one that cooks good, keep a clean home. a Terrible parent to me would be a parent that just doesn't care, no guidance etc. So basically from the outside it looks all good but dig a little deeper and the family is dysfunctional. SAD

And no I never got a spanking AND neither did my 5 children.

Cygne · ‎08-07-2014

That is you and your experience which is not the end all. Many of us got spanked and spanked our children and we are all fine because of it and would not have been raised any other way so get over yourselves.