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[Lion]

On 6/15/2014 AuntG said:

On 6/15/2014 colliegirls said:

Some of you need not discuss a subject you obviously know nothing about. Grief is relative and every grief or loss is <em>very</em> different. I don't know anyone who wants to "hang on to the grief" or be miserable. Some pain is easier than others to live with. PERIOD.

I'm pretty sure I've met people who do hang on to their grief for whatever reason.

Yes, there are people who hold on to grief.

Some feel guilty if they don't hold on to the grief and begin to feel better again.

[NoelSeven]

On 6/15/2014 colliegirls said:

Some of you need not discuss a subject you obviously know nothing about. Grief is relative and every grief or loss is very different. I don't know anyone who wants to "hang on to the grief" or be miserable. Some pain is easier than others to live with. PERIOD.

I agree with you here, you're right.

There can be a very organic, biological cause, also. Some people in emotional pain, particularly PTSD, get it hardwired into their brain, where they relive it over and over. There are new treatments being tried for that, including memory removal.

People who brush off the pain of others literally do not know what they're talking about. It's much more complicated than a simplistic conclusion.

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On 6/15/2014 Sedonee said:

On 6/15/2014 colliegirls said:

Some of you need not discuss a subject you obviously know nothing about. Grief is relative and every grief or loss is <em>very</em> different. I don't know anyone who wants to ""hang on to the grief"" or be miserable. Some pain is easier than others to live with. PERIOD.

Speak for yourself. I have experienced the grief and I also know those who wear their grief like a crown.

I believe it was colliegirls who said the grief suffered after losing a child is unlike any other.

ITA with her.

And if anyone who has lost a child wears that grief like a crown then so be it. I am the last to judge someone who has gone through such agony.