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[LizzieInSRQ]

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@suzyQ3 wrote:

@NicksmomESQ, you're lucky that you're not a new member and instead are a valuable poster.

Otherwise, I wouldn't have believed your story for a minute.

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She's lucky? That sounds rather threatening. What a weird reply. It doesn't make one difference to me if someone has 1 posts or 17k. If it asks a question or makes an interesting statement, so be it.

[SandySparkles]

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@NicksmomESQ wrote:

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@Snooky60 wrote:

@NicksmomESQ - what I really don't get is why she thought it would be ok to drop the child off at your house. Has this occurred before? So odd. 💗

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@Snooky60   @alicedee  In the past she has dropped her daughter in my lap & asked me to watch her,pick her up at the bus stop etc. I put an end to it about a year ago.DH felt she was taking advantage of me.

   Last year I asked her to drive me to my mechanic,10 minutes away, so I can pick up my car. She suggested I call an Uber.After that I stopped helping her out.

   I will say that she appears to be a good mother.Her daughter appears happy. I think she feels that everyone should be willing to help make her life easier.I think that you shouldn't have kids if you can't take care of them.

I'm glad I revisited this thread, because I felt really bad for your neighbor, thinking she might have been experiencing a mental crisis.

To learn that this is not atypical behavior for her is a RELIEF. It seems she was just desperate, holds you in high regard, trusts you with her children. and felt she can rely on you in a pinch. Her approach was indeed improper, but it doesn't sound like blatant disregard. I just think she was in panic mode.😊

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

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[KKJ]

Panic mode? I don't agree. She is flat-out taking advantage of the OP and wanting others to care for the kids she's supposed to be looking after. I see this all the time where I live too. Lots of mothers having many kids and then not wanting the responsibility of taking care of them. ITA with previous poster---if you can't (and many don't want to) take care of them don't have them!

[Sage04]

@NicksmomESQ  this sounds  more like a dream than an actual conversation lol. So that´s the same neighbor you talked about before. Now i get it.

[Linmo]

@NicksmomESQ You did the right thing.  Your neighbor does not necessarily have mental issues but might be feeling desperate as many people are.  Take care!