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[HiLo]

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@dex wrote:

@Plaid Pants2 I agree that it is stressful for a caregiver especially knowing that the only end to it will be  final.I think this part of life is just so sad.

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 Yes, many things in this life are beyond sad,, watching your small child slowly die.is another.  I try to ask God to give me His prospective on the hard things in life; that seems to help somewhat since none of us are put here to stay.

[happycat]

@bonnielu

I'm sorry you lost your father so young. It sounds like he taught you well, he was obviously a wise man. How wonderful that you have always had that memory. He was gone, but his wonderful advice stayed with you. Thats sweet.

Its really a shame that more people aren't taught to put others first, or just to treat others the way you want to be treated.

[RetRN]

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@10grands wrote:

Wow!   How insulting,  I am 80, and am just as up to date on scams, etc., as anyone else.   I do not answer the phone if I do not recognize the caller, etc., etc.   Just because we are older, please do not assume everyone is not still capable of taking care of themselves.  I am a widow, still live in my own home and take care of my own business.   I have many friends and acquaintances who are also very able to care for themselves.

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Good for you, but your situation is not the same for everyone. Nothing insulting about what I have read here. . And remember, your situation can change.

[RetRN]

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@chrystaltree wrote:

I hate it when people make broad generalizations about other people based only on their own experiences.  That happens a lot on this board.  Perhaps because some people have tiny, closed lives and they don't interact with people outside of their circle.  First, there is no such thing as "the elderly".  There are elderly people, that true.  But just like everyone one else in the world. there is a world of diversity amongst "the elderly".  Why would anyone assume that everyone over the age of 65 is  dimwitted, easy to take advantage of and someone to be pittied?   Most, the vast majority of elderly people have no cognitive deficits and are smart and intuitive as people 20 years younger.  Sometimes they are smarter and more sophisticated that 40 year olds.  Yes SOME elderly people are victimized but that's small minority.  And 40 year olds and 50 year olds are sometimes victimized too.  In my experience, it isn't "sad" to be old at all.  Would you say that it's "sad" to be 50?  Just because 50 is older than 30?  Older people are living full, happy satisfying lives.  They aren't all home watching quizz shows and soap opera's all day.  Not that there is anything wrong with that.  But many elderly people travel and enjoy leisure activities and volunteer in their communities and help with their grandchildren and are active in their churces.  They are enjoying their lives and there is nothing "sad" about their lives. 

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As usual, you seem to think you know all the answers. You could not be more wrong. I suppose you are looking fabulous today (well at least in your eyes).

[chrystaltree]

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@Elvita wrote:

We are more merciful to animals than we are to other humans. What does that say about us?

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       That doesn't say anything about us.  Says a lot about you and your life and I'm sorry about that. 

[chrystaltree]

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@RetRN wrote:

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@10grands wrote:

Wow!   How insulting,  I am 80, and am just as up to date on scams, etc., as anyone else.   I do not answer the phone if I do not recognize the caller, etc., etc.   Just because we are older, please do not assume everyone is not still capable of taking care of themselves.  I am a widow, still live in my own home and take care of my own business.   I have many friends and acquaintances who are also very able to care for themselves.

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Good for you, but your situation is not the same for everyone. Nothing insulting about what I have read here. . And remember, your situation can change.

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       I'm 56 and I'm insulted and offened by all this bashing and disparaging of older people !  Where the heck is it coming from?   It's like these hateful people don't know any older people.  I say "older" because they are using "elderly" in mean and insulting manner and I won't buy into that.  Perhaps these people are very young and should be pitied for being so uninformed about what it means to age.  Perhaps they haven't lived long enough to know that we don't really change as we get older.  People who are lonely, miserable and isolated at 50....are that way at 80.  The reverse is also true, those of us who live full, happy, involved lives at 50 will be that way all of our lives.  But I do understand that there are people out there who failed to look ahead and PLAN for their senior years.  They took a "whatever" approach and now they find that "whatever" has left them in difficult circumstances and it probably makes them feel better about themselves if they think that misery is comes with age.