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[Mistreatedbycs]

I wish I could help all the elderly people out there.

The amount of scamming, taking advantage of and overall help they need with bills etc.  Wish I could help all these people.

What happens is your "team" is most likely down to 1 person and the other one did so much and now you feel you are just lost.  The kids aren't around and you just feel helpless.  That's a bad feeling.

Just thinking how sad it is to get old.

[151949]

I agree - some stay mentally sharp but they are few and far between. I have friends dealing with elderly parent issues right now and it is very difficult. I have elderly neighbors who are showing signs they are failing and needing help. A few homes in our plan have been sold by the children after Mom can't come to Florida for the winter anymore. Some of the people are only in their 70's.

[AKgirl2]

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@151949 wrote:

I agree - some stay mentally sharp but they are few and far between. I have friends dealing with elderly parent issues right now and it is very difficult. I have elderly neighbors who are showing signs they are failing and needing help. A few homes in our plan have been sold by the children after Mom can't come to Florida for the winter anymore. Some of the people are only in their 70's.

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@151949 ~ one's health is their wealth and unfortunately,  not everyone is rich in that respect   How blessed people are who have their physical, mental and emotional health.

[Plaid Pants2]

You know what else is sad?

The caregiving of the elder usually falls on to one person.

There could be 15 kids, and it usually ends up being just one person having to take care of the elder.

It is hard, heart-breaking work.

You do it because you love them, but the job comes with its own stresses.

[dex]

@Plaid Pants2 I agree that it is stressful for a caregiver especially knowing that the only end to it will be  final.I think this part of life is just so sad.

[Puzzle Piece]

Yes, it's contemptable how villians prey on the elderly. 

We had a care taker steal and burglarize my late in-laws.  The accomplice went to jail, was released, violated parole and went back to jail for 6 years.  The criminal care taker got off scot free because she gave up the accomplice and his where abouts to the police who had been looking for him for several years.  She still got away with it all.  She will do it again and be smarter about it to not get caught. 

[Vivian]

I am 70; My husband is 74. My mother is 94. I am totally aware of the scams out there and have never been taken in. My mother, on the other hand, has fallen for a few scams, fortunately not too damaging. I think there's a generational phenomenon going on here. We baby boomers know that there are some slippery characters out there and we're not suckered in as much as our parents have been.

[dex]

@Puzzle Piece that is just ugly...how does a person find someone to trust and who will treat these frail elderly people with kindness.

[Bri21]

It's heartbreaking.  Some are so lonely.   We need to take care of our elderly.   

[AKgirl2]

A couple of years after mom passed, I moved dad from FL to our home in UT.  He lived with us for four years, until the decision was made to place him in assisted living, dad was 90 at the time.  He had health issues, surgeries that led to declining mobility and I wasn't able to give him the supervision and care he needed.  Dad was falling a lot, needed help with bathing, etc.  Between family, work, and dad it became overwhelming.  To this day, I still feel bad and guilty about putting him in assisted living.  I don't think he forgave me for that.  Pop lived to be 93❤️