Thanksgiving Rant - Page 6

TenderMercies · ‎06-03-2017

@sunshine45 wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
@sunshine45 wrote:
as a frequent host, i do like to know if any of my guests have special requests or needs regarding food. i would get in touch with the host and let him or her know that a few people have requested gluten free/vegetarian options. it is NOT difficult at all to accomodate these requests and the host may very well prefer to know in advance.
Yes, and if the hostess asks me if there are any special dietary requests or needs, I will absolutely tell her that I have someone who keeps gluten free, a vegetarian, and a pescatarian. I am not, however, going to call up a board member, and tell her that she has to make a tofurkey and bake a fish on Thaksgiving.

i think it is wrong to NOT contact the host, especially if you are the go between. i dont think you have to make a tofurkey or even bake a fish, but LOTS of vegetarian options as i suggested would fill the bill for both people. it is not difficult either to order a beautiful smoked salmon platter if the host wanted to.

"LOTS" of vegetarian options? For the 3 guests who don't eat meat? There are 12 employees, the boss and his husband, the hostess and her husband, and her 4 kids, and she's supposed to make LOTS of vegetarian dishes for these 3 people? The meal is at 1PM. I eat salad 3 times a week for lunch as a choice, and I eat everything. Why can't they suck it up and deal?

AngusandBuddhasMom · ‎03-10-2010

@TenderMercies wrote:
@Mj12 wrote:
I have a severe food allergy (peanuts); I never ask people to 'make concessions' or change any menus. I just end up not eating much because I don't know what might be in something or how it was prepared. Once in a while, a host will ask beforehand if there are any dietary restrictions, then I'll speak up. Otherwise I just go and do the best I can with what is there - then eat afterwards. Not a big deal. But don't get so offended that a few people brought it up.
None of these people have allergies, or I would have mentioned that to the hostess. When these employees sign their contracts, they also fill out an Emergency Medical Form which has them list any kind of illness, medication, emergency contact, and allergies. In many ways, I probably know more about their medical issues than their family members.

You realize to be GF is Celiac?

TenderMercies · ‎06-03-2017

@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
@Mj12 wrote:
I have a severe food allergy (peanuts); I never ask people to 'make concessions' or change any menus. I just end up not eating much because I don't know what might be in something or how it was prepared. Once in a while, a host will ask beforehand if there are any dietary restrictions, then I'll speak up. Otherwise I just go and do the best I can with what is there - then eat afterwards. Not a big deal. But don't get so offended that a few people brought it up.
None of these people have allergies, or I would have mentioned that to the hostess. When these employees sign their contracts, they also fill out an Emergency Medical Form which has them list any kind of illness, medication, emergency contact, and allergies. In many ways, I probably know more about their medical issues than their family members.
You realize to be GF is Celiac?

No, it's not, actually. I know plenty of people who don't eat gluten as a dietary choice who don't have celiac. My ex was a vegetarian who had been gluten free for a year before we started dating, and he started eating gluten again when we dated. Some people think that gluten effects brain function and is generally unhealthy for the body.

esmerelda · ‎03-10-2010

@TenderMerciesReminds me of those who, when you ask if they want freshly caught fish, they ask, "Is it cleaned?"

I think I'd send out the menu and be done with it. All who plan to come can decide if there's anything there they can eat. Or you might suggest they bring a dish they can enjoy, given their dietary restrictions.

disclaimer: I only read the OP, not the replies.

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Keepin' it real.

JJsMom · ‎03-10-2010

Have you even discussed this with the host? Maybe she doesn't care. You're getting awfully worked up for an event you are not hosting or attending.

Personally, if I were hosting, I'd want to know these things, and I'd try to accommodate as best I could. It's not that hard to do on Thanksgiving because there are so many options and side dishes. There's usually something for everyone.

If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor. ~ Desmond Tutu

beckyb1012 · ‎03-09-2010

Sounds like the kind of people who would open your Christmas gift and immediately ask for the receipt so they could return it for the cash. Such welcoming hearts they all must have.

Rescind the invite would be my choice.

"Live frugally, but love extravagantly."

AngusandBuddhasMom · ‎03-10-2010

@TenderMercies wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
@Mj12 wrote:
I have a severe food allergy (peanuts); I never ask people to 'make concessions' or change any menus. I just end up not eating much because I don't know what might be in something or how it was prepared. Once in a while, a host will ask beforehand if there are any dietary restrictions, then I'll speak up. Otherwise I just go and do the best I can with what is there - then eat afterwards. Not a big deal. But don't get so offended that a few people brought it up.
None of these people have allergies, or I would have mentioned that to the hostess. When these employees sign their contracts, they also fill out an Emergency Medical Form which has them list any kind of illness, medication, emergency contact, and allergies. In many ways, I probably know more about their medical issues than their family members.
You realize to be GF is Celiac?
No, it's not, actually. I know plenty of people who don't eat gluten as a dietary choice who don't have celiac. My ex was a vegetarian who had been gluten free for a year before we started dating, and he started eating gluten again when we dated. Some people think that gluten effects brain function and is generally unhealthy for the body.

Yes it is if you have celiac,my DD has celiac. For some it is not a fad or a trend. Those who do it as a choice are lucky they can switch on or off their eating habits. But people like my dd who has no choice but to be GF for her health do not take it lightly.

TenderMercies · ‎06-03-2017

@JJsMom wrote:
Have you even discussed this with the host? Maybe she doesn't care. You're getting awfully worked up for an event you are not hosting or attending.

Personally, if I were hosting, I'd want to know these things, and I'd try to accommodate as best I could. It's not that hard to do on Thanksgiving because there are so many options and side dishes. There's usually something for everyone.

That's my point, and that's why I'm getting "awfully worked up." If you are vegetarian, pescatarian or don't eat gluten and you understand what a traditional Thanksgiving dinner includes, then why, when invited to a private home, would you request additional dishes like fish when you know you will have options?

summerwind · ‎09-28-2013

Thank you, @Zhills! Eggs are also on his nono list, but I've seen many corn pudding recipes with no eggs. Plus there are other egg substitutes vegans use. No substitute that I know of for an egg McMuffin, unfortunately!

TenderMercies · ‎06-03-2017

@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@TenderMercies wrote:
@Mj12 wrote:
I have a severe food allergy (peanuts); I never ask people to 'make concessions' or change any menus. I just end up not eating much because I don't know what might be in something or how it was prepared. Once in a while, a host will ask beforehand if there are any dietary restrictions, then I'll speak up. Otherwise I just go and do the best I can with what is there - then eat afterwards. Not a big deal. But don't get so offended that a few people brought it up.
None of these people have allergies, or I would have mentioned that to the hostess. When these employees sign their contracts, they also fill out an Emergency Medical Form which has them list any kind of illness, medication, emergency contact, and allergies. In many ways, I probably know more about their medical issues than their family members.
You realize to be GF is Celiac?
No, it's not, actually. I know plenty of people who don't eat gluten as a dietary choice who don't have celiac. My ex was a vegetarian who had been gluten free for a year before we started dating, and he started eating gluten again when we dated. Some people think that gluten effects brain function and is generally unhealthy for the body.
Yes it is if you have celiac,my DD has celiac. For some it is not a fad or a trend. Those who do it as a choice are lucky they can switch on or off their eating habits. But people like my dd who has no choice but to be GF for her health do not take it lightly.

I think you missed the point which is that not everyone who chooses to abstain from gluten does not necessarily have celiac. As I said, my ex chose not to eat it for other reasons. He did not have celiac, and this employee who requested a gluten free meal told me last week that she doesn't have celiac. I saw her eat pizza. She said the she likes to indulge every once and a while.