Thank you notes

bargainsgirl · ‎01-13-2012

A nephew (who we rarely see) was married in August. We did not attend cause we were just returning from a vacation on the day of the wedding. We sent a gift via wedding planner websitte. Still have not recieved a thank you note. Same thing happened to a friend who did attend an out of town wedding in August as well. Are thank you notes also now becoming a thing of the past? Seems really rude to me especially since they spend so much effort to get their wedding websites in order and are not shy about what they ask for!!! Manners out the door I guess....

Q-Checker · ‎05-09-2010

@bargainsgirl-- I just gave you a heart and wish that it could have been two. I could not agree more. I often do not receive a thank you for large cash gifts to young people for birthdays, etc. I know that the gifts were received as the checks were cashed. I accept any kind of thank you -- notes, email or phone calls are all good though a simple note is preferred. At age 21, I will cut off their gifts if the rude lack of any expression of appreciation continues, only because I am more forgiving of children than adults.

Bri369 · ‎11-03-2018

I have always received a thank you note for sending a wedding gift whether I attended the wedding or not. We attending a wedding over Labor Day weekend, and we received the thank you note two weeks later.

A good friend of ours daugter had a baby girl a couple of months ago and I sent a beautiful outfit. She texted me with an adorable photo of the baby wearing the outfit that I sent and thanking me. I did not expect a written thank you card in the mail.

Effie54 · ‎09-08-2010

It seems so. This happened to us a few times. We gave wedding, baby, shower gifts to my best friend's son and his wife. We never received a thank you for any of it. It's a shame that thank you cards are now by the wayside. In my day, it was something we did out of gratitude.

Franell · ‎03-23-2012

I am one of those rude people who doesn't write thank you notes. Every time I get one from someone else I feel guilty. For a big occasion like a wedding I would send them but for your run of the mill birthday or Christmas gift I call or email.

Kitlynn · ‎03-09-2010

I think a Thank You note is not asking to much from anyone. I feel like if you can't take the time to drop a note in the mail then I won't bother to take the time to get a gift or card with cash in it. We always told our daughter from the time she was little if you can't be bothered to send a Thank You then people don't have to be bothered sending you something either. I always send Thank You notes. Our daughter is forty three and people always get a hold of me and tell me what a lovely Thank You they have received from her when they send her anything. Good manners should never not be the normal.

Enufstuff · ‎03-12-2010

@bargainsgirl@Q-Checker I can totally relate to what you are saying. My grand daughter got married in May and we never received a thank you note for our gift.

Twice, in the past, I have given wedding gifts to non relatives and never got a thank you note.

Entitled people with no manners or gratitude.

I have discontinued sending checks and birthday cards to five adult grandchildren for this reason. They don't even call or email. I have never even gotten a birthday or Christmas card from any of them.

Now, I only give to their children for birthdays. I do still give a small gift to them for Christmas. Four of them are in their 30's. When I am alone without my husbands income, I will probably stop giving for Christmas, too.

Then I will only give Christmas gifts to their children, if I can still afford it. There are eight great grandchildren.

geezerette · ‎03-16-2010

@Franell wrote:
I am one of those rude people who doesn't write thank you notes. Every time I get one from someone else I feel guilty. For a big occasion like a wedding I would send them but for your run of the mill birthday or Christmas gift I call or email.

@Franell

As far as I'm concerned, that's just as good.

I'm not asking for a handwritten note sent via US Mail anymore, just a simple acknowledgment that the person(s) got my gift. There have been a few times I have sent gifts and never knew if the recipient ever actually received what I sent. If I hadn't asked a family member, I wouldn't have known that one gift never did reach the intended.

bargainsgirl · ‎01-13-2012

@Franell wrote:
I am one of those rude people who doesn't write thank you notes. Every time I get one from someone else I feel guilty. For a big occasion like a wedding I would send them but for your run of the mill birthday or Christmas gift I call or email.

ANY kind of a thank you would be nice. It does not necessarily need to be hand written...