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[NAES1]

@JerseyGirlNJ wrote:

What are your thoughts on pre-printed thank you notes? Maybe I am old fashioned and like hand written thank you notes. I recently received a printed thank you, no written signature from my niece for her son's baptism gift. My other niece did the same thing for her wedding.

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   Hello JerseyGirlNJ, along with ">panda 123...not to exclude ninety nine percent of (what deems necessary for others to assess others who have preferred "others" as O L D  Fashioned) is extremely laughable to me) those who still what "we refer to as - polished in standard of quality, integrity and being taught priorities as the best I could describe as:: GOOD MANNERS. I applaud each and every issue that a lady should address, as well as the males~

   I would like to personally greet JerseyGirlNJ and panda123 for all of their thoughts with substance in posting that I have found worth reading. 

Please accept this, from me, as a token of - yes, "old fashion upbringing"- each one demonstrates a well functioning childhood, 'per manners...in my opinion.........

    Lame excuses and absolutely Inconsiderate Minds.

......_"as for poor penmanship, that does not even holds water"!

Never lose those qualities- they are few and far between,,,,,,,,

                       NAES

[Irshgrl31201]

I don't mind pre-printed thank you notes at all. I ordered a whole bunch of them a while ago with a local printer. I saw this Lily Pulitzer print that I loved and I took it to my printing guy. He copied it for me and the front of the card has that print in pink and green and our monogrammed initials, over the Lily print. The inside simply says thank you.

However, I do not like that someone would not write something personal on it. On mine, you have to because that is all it says is thank you. The card has enough room on the inside to write a couple of paragraphs and that is why I got them.

[Moonchilde]

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@Sunnyfield wrote:

while I am definitely of the "personal thank you note" generation, I understand that many younger people are not taught those manners - that being said, what I can't stand is for NO acknowledgement whatsoever...a thank you text or phone call is really all I ask for - to not even get that is just rude and inconsiderate....one stepson and his "signficant other" are particularly - in fact, she has never acknowledged a single thing I have sent to her. 

And I have to admit my own son is sometimes guilty of "forgetting" to let me know a gift or check has arrived - even though he was "required" to write thank you notes growing up.

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I too am of the "personal, handwritten" generation, but the fact of the matter is that as we age, arthritis and other factors make it difficult for some to hand write more than their signature or a simple line without pain or without it looking like ****, so a hug & verbal thank you, a typed thank you & signature, or a phone call or email, is what people will get from me, and I will not be guilted into feeling my thanks is worth less, expressed in the ways I'm able to express it.

[NAES1]

Hello moonchilde, 

      I hope that your arthritic fingers & hands are better today from past days. I think your comment was well taken and hope most should remember this, _____->the crippling of arthritis, especially the rheumatoid stiffness 'of' motion, holding a mere pen or pencil.

I assume that most here, who are typing have very little problems of what functional movement would mean for crippled fingers?

I do know of some (my patients) who actually have to use a pencil or something similar to press in each letter on the keyboard.

You should **never have guilt feelings** in not writing to anyone-ever. 

Thank you for bringing this point out to those who may have never thought of this. I have seen snarled fingers so bad that they can no longer feed themselves.

Although, I am not of the very older generation of "personal Handwritten" notes; those gifted and sent as with... material objects, but was taught, as you, that a  personal HUG is much better than a note, even a phone call would be nicer.

Everyone needs a visit or hug, hopefully BOTH as one ages~

Have a wonderful day,```sending good thoughts for you``` to stay pain-free.  

I have been on the community board for (just a few days ago) 4 years and have reached over 1,000 posts.

May be that I can reach, like yourself, over 3,000...it a hope, but not a goal, though. I am not here everyday nor do I have contribution to most back and forth conversations.

BEST WISHES FOR YOUR CONTINUED TYPING, ESPECIALLY HAVING ARTHRITIS IN YOUR FINGERS/ HANDS.

                                   My BEST, NAES

[missy1]

My thoughts: TACKY!

Did everyone get the same preprinted thank you card? Like "thank you for the gift", but didn't say what it was? They should have hand signed it.....But...at least they sent one out in  timely manner.

[NAES1]

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@missy1 wrote:

My thoughts: TACKY!

Did everyone get the same preprinted thank you card? Like "thank you for the gift", but didn't say what it was? They should have hand signed it.....But...at least they sent one out in  timely manner.

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     NOW, that is TACKY!!!!!

@ @missy1:::::    

  I, too agree~  ....especially with young children -be that teen or adults..healthy adults ; I have NO answer for those who are just lazy. 

NAES

[JerseyGirlNJ]

Thank you Naes! My heart smiled when I read your post. I was raised to have respect and courtesy. If someone is going to send a pre-printed thank you at least sign it. As you know by now I am not a fan of pre-printed thank you notes. Maybe I shouldn't have said I am old fashioned. It's a matter of respect. Seriously how long does it take to write a hand written note?

[JerseyGirlNJ]

Actually Chrystaltree I am 52, not 40 and wouldn't say I am behind the times. LOL But hey thanks for your post.

[panda1234]

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@JerseyGirlNJ wrote:

Actually Chrystaltree I am 52, not 40 and wouldn't say I am behind the times. LOL But hey thanks for your post.

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Good manners are NEVER behind the times.

[panda1234]

Just another thought on the subject. I have received many lovely thank you notes over the years and have saved them. Occasionally I will come across them and enjoy reading them. They just bring a warm feeling to my heart. I have a 93 year old aunt who insists on still writing thank yous with her crippled hands. Once she is gone I will have those to remember her by.